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Where does an HR person go when they have work incidents with their manager? I was told by higher ups that they were offended when I brought issues to their attention.
I work in HR and recommend that you speak with your HR peers within your organization. They can often assist/intervene.
I'm not in HR but I would think you should go to your manager's manager if you are not assigned your own generalist HR contact who you think might be an impartial arbiter -- at least that's what I would do if I had an issue with my own mgr (i.e. as someone not in HR I woudl go both to HR and to my mgr's manager)....don't know why anyone would be offended??
I have a colleague (female) who is very close to the owner of the company. As a result she gets away with working any kind of hours, coming and going as she pleases. She has about 20 people reporting to her and all of them are complaining that they can't have a conversation with her or get some kind of direction from her. If they make a decision they get yelled at for not running it by her. If they don't make a decision they get yelled at for not doing something. When she does have a "conversation" it is all about yelling and cursing and how she has to do everything for everyone . HR is pretty ineffective because of this person's relationship to the owner. The person right below the owner also doesn't care because he wants to look good to the owner and tells anyone who goes to him that if they are not happy then leave. What does one do in such a situation.
"...or just a long week of trying to be skinny+successful+super-mom/friend/daughter,..."
This quote from your post about the discussion boards is really unfortunate. Why on Earth would you list skinny as first in the list of aspirations women should have. What year is this? Haven't you heard of the eating disorders/body image epidemic??
I'm in my early 50's and looking for a job. I've been an Executive Assistant at the same company for many years, and am in the process of getting my degree (but not close enough to mean anything yet). It seems to be difficult to find a place that is actually hiring for a higher level EA (most companies seem to promote from within). I am hoping to get any guidance or suggestions on what might be other administrative positions I could consider, whether there are skills I should develop, or, well, just any helpful advice.
Have you thought about remote assistant positions? It's so hard to job search when you've been at the same company for so long but there's a whole new wave of digital personal assistants. They may not offer the same salary or benefits you're looking for though...another idea is to look for office manager positions. I'm not sure if a degree is that relevant, quite honestly. Good luck!
I just got the big promotion I've been hoping for...but now my peers and friends are going to be reporting to me. I'm feeling nervous that we won't be able to be friends anymore, and also that they'll resent me for having been promoted. Any advice on how I should handle?
Ooof. I can totally relate to this feeling but you CANNOT let your worries crowd out your clear thinking on this. You can still be friendly but your relationship is going to change and that's awkward but something you're just going to have to try to handle professionally. If the stress gets to be too much, you might ask a fellow mgr (maybe not your boss since it'll make you look less professional) for advice / thoughts on this.
How does a consultant negotiate a higher compensation?
In my experience with freelancers, they have often approached me to say that they were increasing their base hourly rate for all clients, and then they would state their new expectation and that they would be negotiable on the rate in order to continue with the work for my company. I would suggest going along the same lines, assuming the company you work for doesn't think they're your only client. As always, ask for a slightly higher rate than you want up-front in case they negotiate you down.
In some ways it's easier than being salaried - after all, nobody knows your rates and you can simply say "This is my hourly rate." Not sure tactically it should be too different than any other kind of negotiation
Not sure whether this counts as sexual harassment or not. There's all this online advice to document but it's not like it happens over email. It's not my direct manager but an MD in my department..he keeps sending me gifts (small -- e.g. some chocolates, a jokey bobblehead) for no reason and I am not sure what to do about them. Seems like making a scene to return those things which he sometimes just leaves at my desk with a note but if I say thank you, it feels like saying it's ok.
Sexual harassment/harassment can be considered any unwelcome attention or gestures. You need to make it clear that his gifts/gestures are unwelcome. You need to say "Thanks Joe, but I really can't accept these gifts/any future gifts" and make sure that whatever gifts he has presented previously are not on display (give them back, give them to others, or get rid of them). See if this stops it. Document your actions (and his), so if the gifts don't stop, then you can discuss with your manager or HR.
If it makes you feel uncomfortable, then it's harassment. Can you pull the MD aside and say, "these gifts are so nice, but you're making me feel a little uncomfortable." ?
What do you think is the most appropriate outfit for an interview at a tech company? Biz casual or something more formal?
I encourage candidates to dress very professionally for an interview. You want them to see you as someone who can represent the company and present to more senior level executives.
I've been in tech for about 5 years now and I've become way more casual than in previous years. Unless stated, don't wear jeans. I usually wear either dressy crop pants (bi stretch ones at the Gap are FANTASTIC and a good price) and a dress shirt or blouse. Sometimes I'll wear a shift dress if I want to be a step up. Those outfits have always been a slam dunk
I typically wear a skirt (it's strange but I feel like it's more formal than slacks) and tucked in shirt or blazer over a top. No super high heels for me...I feel like it's important to look nice but not stand out as too feminine when i'm going to be working with mostly men (usually) in a product team
I would err on the side of formal - no suits or pantyhose (does anyone still wear that?????) but def no hoodies for women.
What sites do you ladies use when looking for a new job?
I was in good shape, so I worked up to about the last day. My boss got nervous when I was really big at the end. LOL. I picked a last day just before my delivery date. Went for a slow swim of maybe four laps across a pool. Delivered that weekend. Awesome. Definitely maximize your leave. I negotiated using vacation in the afternoon so I would go to work and come home at noon until baby was three months old. Such an important time.