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5 Ways to Support a Friend Who's Returning to Work After Maternity Leave
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Julie Finn, Exec coach, women's leadership speaker, podcast

Returning to work after maternity leave is an exciting time for some, but a stressful and sad time for others.  I remember my first day back to work after maternity leave.  I took my son to the sitter’s house, got into my car and bawled like a baby. While I liked my team and was happy to be returning to my corporate strategy role, I was heartbroken to be leaving my little guy with someone else.

Fast forward to today and I’ve successfully navigated my own maternity leaves, coached clients returning from leave and supported countless friends through the process.  While there are many things you can do to support a friend who’s returning to work, there are five key things that will make a big difference for her.

1. Offer to help around her house. 

She may not be able to to envision what she needs, but trust me, the transition from being home with baby to going back to the office is tough.  If she’s like most moms on leave, she’s doing the lion's share of the household duties, including cooking, laundry, and running errands.  By the end of maternity leave, many moms have developed a new set of habits and routines that are predicated on her being home and having control over her schedule.  Showering, doing laundry or quickly preparing a meal while the baby is napping have become part of her routine.  

A rude awakening comes on that first day back to work.  Gone are the days of taking a shower at noon or a nap at 4 pm if she had a rough night with the baby.  Now, she’s having to get up, get herself work ready, get the baby ready for a sitter or daycare and get out of the door early in the morning. She likely returns home that evening tired and desperate to spend some quality time bathing and bonding with her baby before the little one heads to bed.  The flexibility she had during maternity leave has disappeared over night.  Offer to stock groceries in the house, bring over prepared meals, process some laundry or send a cleaning service.  

2. Be a good listener. 

Returning to work is often fraught with emotions. She is simultaneously recalibrating the division of labor with her spouse or partner, spending less time with her baby and juggling being a mom with her work responsibilities.  Each of these can be tough.  She may not ask for help, but will appreciate it.  Call to check on her and listen. She will need to vent at times and process emotions.  Offer advice where you can, but what’s more important is that you are there for her.

3. Give her small gifts to take to work. 

Small gifts to brighten her space and make her feel special are appreciated. Framed pictures of her baby for her desk, accessories to make pumping at work easier or flowers and an encouraging note can bring her joy.  Once the baby shower has passed and after friends have brought the new baby gifts, the attention that the family — and especially the mom — receives will dwindle.  Small tokens of support and appreciation will be unexpected and go a long way.

4. Buy, loan and recommend work clothes. 

If she has to wear professional clothes to work, getting back into her work clothes — especially if she’s pumping — can be stressful and, for some, demoralizing.  If you have clothes you can lend her, great.  If not, researching and purchasing pump-friendly work clothes can be a game changer for her.

5. Get her out of the house. 

Once the reality of juggling work and her new baby sets in, your friend may find it difficult to make time for herself.  Take her for a walk or out for coffee. She’ll appreciate the support and the break from her new routine.

Your friend’s journey to juggling working motherhood is a long and fruitful one. Being a great source of support during her early days will be remembered and appreciated for years to come.

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