There are plenty of reasons to maintain a healthy dose of skepticism around the practices of Gwyneth Paltrow, founder and brand empress of Goop, a multi-million dollar “wellness” company known mainly for proffering inaccessible lifestyle standards. But when it comes to her decision not to full-time cohabitate with husband Brad Falchuk, the actress may not be totally off the mark.
In a recent interview with The Sunday Times, Paltrow revealed that she and Falchuk, who married last fall, still maintain separate Los Angeles residences.
Rather than bunk up 24/7, Faltrow spends four nights a week at Paltrow’s pad, with the remaining three evenings spent at his own address.
The decision, the actress explained, has largely to do with the fact they both have teenaged children from prior marriages; keeping separate homes allows them to avoid disrupting their kids’ lives. But there’s also a clear relationship incentive at play here, which she described — in oh-so-Gwyneth fashion — as aligned with the teachings of her “intimacy teacher.”
“Interestingly, she and Falchuk don’t live together yet, though he is close by," the Times article reports. "He sleeps at his own house when his children, Brody and Isabella, stay; on the other four nights he’s chez Paltrow — perfect, she volunteers, for the 'polarity' her intimacy teacher, Michaela Boehm, has taught her to keep her relationship, er, fresh...
'Oh, all my married friends say that the way we live sounds ideal and we shouldn’t change a thing,' she giggles.”
Of course, the fact this living situation is even an option to them — with not just one, but two L.A. mansions financially provided for — speaks to the privilege many associate as being synonymous with Paltrow. But to manage to look past that privilege means looking at what honestly seems like a pretty healthy dynamic option for couples who feel cohabiting 24/7 isn't for them. After all, both Paltrow and Falchuk have full, built-out lives (with the latter being the co-creator of "Glee" and "American Horror Story"); to think their nuptials should mandate a complete reordering of their lives as individuals is a little outdated. At least, that's the stance some folks are taking following the news.
Twitter users have been applauding Paltrow's decision to bunk convention in favor of the dynamic that best suits her and her family, and we honestly see where they're coming from.