OR FOR SOMEONE ELSE?
By that I mean when you make decisions in life how many times you put yourself first and then others?
I can guarantee that number is pretty low.
I know I inspire people to step up for themselves here is a story of my friend you might be interested in:
Let's talk about my friend Elaine (not her real name but we will call her that for now), She quit her job in the US to go live with her in-laws in a different country. She was career-driven, focus-driven, and had a flourishing career as a researcher, and most of all she loved it. (We know how rare that is to love what you do every day)
Her husband refused to move here. She moved now to a completely strange country, with lots of immigration-related red tapes around she cannot work there and now have a family to take care of.
When I recently spoke to her she was depressed and was blaming herself for the whole fiasco. I don't agree she should blame her. It's her "Jane" who should be blamed, who made her into an ultimate people pleaser.
Do you have your "inner Jane" dictating what you should be doing so that others don't hate you?
1) You do not turn down that request that came from your manager or from that colleague that always makes great excuses because he does not want to ever work after 4 PM?
2) When you are dissatisfied with your year-end review seeing that exact generic increment you got this year in spite of working 10x than last year, but you don't say anything because your manager will hate you if you do?
3) You see different treatment because your manager says he appreciates you working harder and that's why he piles up more work on you because he knows you can get them done faster, yet you don't say anything?
Let me know if either one of the things is applicable to you? or something else that your ultimate people pleaser inner self-critic is making you settle for!
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