4. To be friends on Facebook
Should you be friends with your boss on Facebook? There are many debates around the topic, and that’s exactly why you should steer clear of being the one initiating the invitation. Befriending your boss on social media is not necessarily a no-no — it all depends on the context and dynamic of your relationship. But since it’s such a gray zone and different people feel different ways about it, it’s safer to wait for your boss to initiate any friend requests.
5. “Would you like to go on a date?”
It would be unrealistic to ignore workplace romances: 22 percent of married U.S. couples met at work, and 27% of global respondents polled by Monster said they’d consider dating a coworker. But a supervisor-subordinate relationship is a major conflict of interest (not to mention the fact that manager-employee romantic relationships are prohibited by many companies and could get you straight-up fired). Just don’t go there — and do not ask your boss on a date.
6. A raise without any reasoning
You should be proactive about getting the recognition you deserve. Let’s face it, you’ll very rarely get a raise on a silver platter and not asking could actually demonstrate a lack of confidence and leadership skills. But asking for a raise without any kind of reasoning can be counterproductive and make you look entitled. And no, personal reasons such as the fact you are renovating your home or getting married don’t qualify as good reasons.
7. “Are you sure?”
You’re not hired to be a yes-person, and it’s great to bring constructive opinions to the table. Just make sure you’re not openly undermining your boss when you do so. Asking “Are you sure?” can demonstrate a lack of trust in your boss’ judgment, and doing it publicly might end up costing you invitations to future meetings. Instead, respectfully bring your concerns to the table privately and ask your boss for her input. Aim to focus on facts and keep your focus on shared positive outcomes.
This article originally appeared on Ladders.