Every relationship involves a certain degree of stress, and solid partnerships give you the space and support to work through tough spots together. However, if your partner is the root cause of your stress, that complicates the dynamic. These nine signs often indicate that your partner— and therefore your relationship — stresses you out beyond a reasonable degree.
Of course, even people in healthy relationships can appreciate spending time apart. But if you never look forward to the times you plan to spend with your significant other- or, even worse, if you actively dread those occasions- then that’s a strong indicator that your relationship dredges up unpleasant emotions for you, which likely include some measure of stress.
When a relationship feels more stressful than not, it’s natural to put every interaction with your partner under a figurative microscope. Minute conversations, tiny gestures, habits that you never even noticed in the past- they can all become fodder for intense analysis. At the same time, if you and your partner aren’t interacting as often as usual, that can become equally anxiety-inducing when you’re in a stressful relationship.
Does relationship-related stress keep you up at night? Do you find yourself particularly susceptible to colds, flus, and mysterious bugs when you’re not in a good place with your partner? When your health becomes compromised by concerns involving your partner, that certainly suggests “too much” stress.
According to Psych Central, “stress causes spikes in adrenaline and cortisol, which suppress the hormones needed to get in the mood.”
If you don’t feel comfortable sharing your stresses with your partner in general, that might be because they’re part of your regular rotation of stressors. When something goes wrong at work or you get into a nasty disagreement with a friend, can you go to your partner to unload and receive comfort? If not, then it’s likely that they’re part of the problem rather than part of the solution.
Everyone gets into spats with their significant others from time to time. But if you notice these arguments popping up far more often than usual (and if the fights take longer than usual to blow over), that could be a byproduct of a stressful partnership.