6 Ways To Cope When You Have A Falling Out With Your Boss

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Eraina Ferguson629
Founder of My Good Life
April 22, 2024 at 3:18PM UTC

We all have those moments when working for our boss is really tough. It may seem so tense that you feel you need to quit your job and find a new one, or you might just want to take a break from the stress of being at work before going back again. Whatever your situation is, it can be hard to know how to handle it. Here are a few suggestions on how to cope.

1. Try to stay calm and rational. 

First, it’s important to remember that your boss is likely not out to get you. Instead, there may be a misunderstanding or a miscommunication that has led to the situation. If you can stay calm and talk to your boss about the case, you may be able to resolve it. It is important to remember that your boss is not your enemy. They are just another person who is trying to do their job. If you can stay calm, it will be easier to communicate with your boss and try to resolve the issue.

2. Try to keep a positive attitude.

 This isn’t easy when you feel like your boss is against you. However, it is essential to remember that this is just a temporary situation. Things will eventually improve. Keeping a positive attitude will help you get through this tough time.

3. Talk about it.

If you're feeling upset after a falling out with your boss, try talking to them. Speaking to your boss about sensitive topics can be challenging, but it's essential to communicate openly and honestly. If you're not comfortable talking to your boss directly, try talking to a trusted friend or family member first. This can help you get some perspective on the situation and they may be able to help you figure out what to say and how to say it.

4. Be honest.

It is also essential to be honest with your boss. If you’ve done something wrong, admit it. This will show them that you are willing to take responsibility for your actions. If you can take responsibility for your part in the problem, it will be easier to find a solution. Which brings us to...

5. Find a mutually beneficial solution.

Even if there’s a contentious situation, try to develop a solution that will benefit both of you. It is important to remember that you are on the same team. If you can find a solution that works for both of you, it will help to improve your relationship with your boss and make sure you can both move forward.

6. Quit and don’t look back. 

If your relationship with your boss is irreparable or if you feel like you can't continue working in that environment, this may be your best option. It’s okay to leave a job because of your manager — just make sure you’ve done what you can to avoid completely burning a bridge before you give notice.

At the end of the day, a falling out with your boss can be difficult, stressful, and emotionally and professionally challenging — but it's important to remember that it's not always about you.  Remember that your boss is just another person with their own set of flaws and quirks. They're not perfect, and neither are you. Try not to take the falling out too personally, and do the best you can to repair your relationship without the cost to your mental health.


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