As a white person who historically hasn’t done enough to help dismantle systems of racism and oppression in this country, and as someone who deeply wants to step up and do better in this regard, the concept of allyship has been on my mind lately. A lot.
I’m sure I’m not the only well-meaning white person for whom the word “allyship” has loomed large in recent weeks. Against the backdrop of the Black Lives Matter movement and its upswell in demands for deeply overdue change, I’ve found myself asking and attempting to answer: How can I be a better ally? For many of us, this may seem like the most logical place to start: namely, within ourselves and our own personal spheres of influence. But after reading the words of some Black activists on the subject of allyship, I started to realize there was something remiss with my focus on it.
This is a problem, in that it suggests the title of ally is one I can simply claim for myself — and not something that A. I have to earn as the result of my ongoing, sustained anti-racist actions and B. has to be given to me by people of color. Not only that, but if my focus remains on how I personally can be a "better ally," at the end of the day, the focus is still on myself. Taking a long look at ourselves, our privilege and the moments where we've been complacent is important work for us to do as white people. But it isn't all of the work.
Monique Melton, an anti-racism educator, author and podcast host, explained it well in an Instagram post:
“Let’s explore why allyship is not the goal,” she wrote. “So many people come into this work believing that the way to support Black lives is (through) allyship. They even self-identify as allies. But allyship is not the goal of this work. Not even close.”
Below, here are the reasons why allyship shouldn't be the goal, as identified by Melton in her post:
“(Allyship) implies that anti-racism is an identity that can be earned or perhaps even born into, which it is not,” Melton wrote. “This would imply there’s a destination, a start & stop point that you get to in this work, when this is instead a life long journey. Anti-racism is not a noun or an identity, but it is instead a daily & ongoing practice of identifying and eliminating racism from the ‘inside-out’ so that we can live fully in our humanity.”
“The goal is not allyship (because) it comes with too many conditions (that you determine) & implies that this work for you is optional, aspirational, intellectual, for personal development; when it is actually (your) responsibility & for Black liberation," she wrote.
“Allyship disconnects (you) from the humanity of this work and keeps (you) insulated & protected by the white privilege you wish to ‘use for good’. But that’s also a myth,” Melton wrote. “You can’t use your privilege for ‘good’ (because) that means there’s still an oppressive system that gives you that privilege. The goal is to dismantle the system that gives you that privilege, & being an ally won’t cut it.”
“Allyship becomes performative far too easily (because) not much is required to call oneself an ally — which means it becomes more about you, than Black lives,” Melton wrote. “This is work (you) should be doing (because) it’s your work to do... (you) don’t need a title, (you) need to get to work… When will the white collective take responsibility for the work that is (yours) to do & w/o needing a title or badge to do it?”
As Melton summed up, the self-proclaimed title of “ally” isn’t what’s actually needed in this moment.
“We need your unrelenting commitment to ending the violence against us by doing the work to ensure we all can live freely in our humanity,” she concluded. “No titles needed.”