Whether you consider yourself an outgoing, extroverted people-person or more of an introvert type, there are going to be times when you just can't think of a conversation starter. It could be at a new job where you don’t know anyone, a networking event, or a company party—sometimes getting the talk going can feel like pulling teeth.
Conversation starters can be a useful tool for these situations—particularly in a work setting. Here are 101 questions to ask in different scenarios in order to keep the chit chat coming.
Here are some ways to get someone talking in almost any scenario where you’re expected to make small talk.
It seems basic, but pet people tend to love talking about their animal buddies. Plus, you might get to see some cute pics from this question!
The answer to this question can spark conversations on anything from hobbies to family to the latest Netflix series.
Similar to the above, but you’ll also have the opportunity to recommend your latest binge-watch!
Time to hear and share some travel stories!
Everyone has experienced a dining fiasco and sharing can help break the ice.
Best-case scenario you come away from a solid convo with some great food recs.
Everyone has a favorite show—probably one they've seen many, many times. You can learn a lot about someone from hearing about what their go-to show is and why—and you might find out you have shared faves.
Bad gifts can make for great stories later on.
Norman Bates? Walter White? Voldemort? Frankenstein? Frankenstein’s monster?
Luke Skywalker? Black Panther? Moana?
Luke Skywalker? Black Panther? Moana?…sorry.
It could be late night ice cream, romance novels, or anything that’ll introduce you to a new side of your acquaintance, and help them get to know you.
A.k.a., what not to bring to the next team potluck.
Everyone’s a foodie these days—maybe there’s a special cuisine from another country or signature dish at a certain restaurant they can’t wait to get a taste of.
This one can also help you feel out more about the other person’s sense of humor.
Do they like to take to the mountains or the beach? A new city or an amusement park?
Maybe you grew up in similar areas or you can learn about an entirely new place.
If they love to do it, chances are they love to talk about it.
Avoid this one if you’re at work and should absolutely know what the other person’s job is already.
You can swap music for “TV shows,” “movies,” “books,” “video games” or almost any kind of media.
Whether you’re new at the office, you find yourself waiting at the coffee machine with somebody you don’t know well, or you’re just trying to break the ice at the beginning of a meeting, these openers can help get the conversation flowing.
Sometimes the classics are classic for a reason. Let the other person talk about what’s on their mind and see how the conversation develops from there.
Use this occasion as an opportunity to discuss a recent work situation you were both part of, such as a meeting or project.
This is best for those on your team who might have knowledge to share with you. Getting a coworker’s take on how they would do something demonstrates that you value their opinion. Plus, the response might teach you another way to handle it in the future.
This one works best when you’re meeting someone new. Not only does asking someone about what they do allow you to break the ice, but you’ll also learn more about the company and the different roles and positions.
Simply introducing yourself is a fine way of making small talk. You’re taking the initiative to approach your new colleagues and showing that you’re a friendly person.
Asking where people spend their time can help you get the lay of the land, learn about the culture of your new workplace, or get to know some new colleagues. Plus, maybe your coworker will think to include you the next time they head out to one of these spots.
Whether your colleague has been here for eight months or eight years, the length of time they’ve worked at the company can allow you to segue into other topics. If they’ve been there awhile, you’ll be able to get their take on the company culture and management. If it hasn’t been that long, you can share your tips for navigating the company.
Paying your employee or a coworker a compliment on a job well done will encourage them to continue their hard work. You’re also showing that someone recognizes when they do well, which will make them feel good.
If you and a coworker are fans of the same media, this can be a great icebreaker. Plus it’ll bring the conversation outside of the work realm.
Learn more about what’s going on in other parts of the company and connect with a coworker at the same time!
Networking events can be painful, especially if you’re an introvert who finds being around tons of new people taxing. Unfortunately, if you’re a professional, you’ll have to attend many throughout your career. Here are conversation starters you can use to make sure your next event goes smoothly.
People love to talk about themselves in almost any situation. Asking them why they’re here gives them license to talk about their favorite subject: themselves. After you ask them why they came to the event, they’ll probably ask you the same question, and then you get to talk about you. This starter can help you segue into a broader conversation about your roles in the industry and goals for the event.
If they’ve been to this event before, you can follow up by asking for tips and finding out what to expect. If they haven’t, you’ve established common ground and can commiserate over being newbies together. Then, you can discuss your expectations and ask for theirs, as well as make small talk about your careers in general.
Again, asking someone what they do in the industry allows them to talk more about themselves. Asking this question can also benefit you in other ways. For instance, perhaps you have similar positions and can share your perspectives on it. Maybe you aspire to their role and could ask for advice on how to follow a similar path.
This is one to use if you know of the person in question because they’re a big name in the industry or a leader in your company. People love flattery, and telling someone you admire them is never a bad thing. Just make sure it’s genuine and be prepared to explain why.
Maybe you’ll find out about a great new product or a potential future employer.
Be ready to share your own, too. And no, “professional ice cream tester” does not work as a dream job for a networking event.
Who doesn’t love an opportunity to toot their own horn every once in a while?
With this question, you might learn some pointers for breaking into an industry or you could learn about someone’s experience with the horrors of high school jobs. Either way, you gain something.
Classes and extracurriculars often give you plenty of opportunities to talk with new people. Try some of these questions to get things started.
Sure it’s cliché, but it could be a jumping off point for a great conversation—or even a great study group.
Maybe you can offer each other pointers on classes you’ve already taken.
This can give you some insight into what they’re really interested in.
Hey, even if you never talk to this person again, you might know what classes you should look at when scheduling comes around for next semester.
Again you might find out more about what the other person is passionate about, but you could also discover a common interest or learn about a new activity you didn’t know was available on campus.
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These openers might work better in less formal situations like parties and meals where you can talk about more topics and get some truly intense conversations going without getting interrupted by “having to do your job” or “the teacher trying to teach you something.”
This question can open some serious discussions.
This reveals not only personality but also literary tastes.
Who doesn't have a crush on a fictional character?
The Bachelor? Nailed It? Queer Eye?
Demonstrations are encouraged.
It could be good. (And here's a list of 17 hilarious office pranks even your grouchiest coworker will enjoy.)
Time to relive it.
Don’t use this one unless you’re willing to partake in an impromptu dance party.
Maybe tonight’s the night to cross some things off.
Time for everyone to share.
Bonus points if you use their idea when you go home.
These questions could work at a social event like the ones above, but they’re also broad enough to work if you’re trying to make conversation at work or school with a group you already know.
Questions like this one are whimsical and thought-provoking all at once.
Half the fun of these questions is sharing your own response—so have one ready.
People love conversational topics that let them reminisce about their childhoods.
See how creative people can get!
Whether the response is silly, earnest, selfish, selfless, or just plain weird, this prompt is bound to get people talking
And you can't say infinite wishes.
If you really want to get the conversation going, try to get the group to reach a consensus.
At least now you'll know not to do it.
Travelers might not mind it too much.
People love to reminisce about fun trips and travel. And you might get some travel ideas of your own.
Some people have some truly strange but fun traditions, and sometimes the origin story is the most fascinating part!
OK, not all of these are laugh-out-loud funny, but they will keep the conversation light.
Hopefully, the irony of the question won’t be lost on your potential conversation partner.
Kids often form some entertaining explanations before they understand how things work.
Beware: Sharing your own silly nickname you used to hate could result in a revival.
Ask people to make some of these choices on the spot:
Organization or chaos?
Dogs or cats?
Snakes or rats?
Immortality or the ability to read other people's minds?
Would you rather live forever or be happy until you die?
Would you rather be too hot or too cold?
Books or movies?
Stinky cheese—yes or no?
Physical books or ebooks?
City or country?
Backstreet Boys or ‘NSYNC?
Music or podcasts?
Train or plane?
Android or iPhone?
Mac or Windows (or Linux)?
Winter or summer?
For some of us less hands-on individuals, assembling IKEA furniture can count as DIY.
Time for a venting session.
If this is no longer an easily understood reference, please don’t tell us and allow us to continue believing we’re young. Thank you.
You’re past the icebreakers and you want to get to know your conversation partner a bit more as a person. Try these—and let the conversation take you where it may.
It might seem silly, but you'll learn a lot about how someone perceives themself.
The response can show you a lot about their values.
Everyone wishes they could make small changes in the way they did something or behaved and opening up about them could bring you closer.
It makes you think about language but also about the kinds of concepts that are really important to you and the other person.
People have a lot of different opinions about how society functions—and how it malfunctions.
You'll find out what kind of people your acquaintance admires or misses the company of.
Sometimes people are more likely to divulge their secrets to strangers than friends and family—but don’t push too hard with this one.
Time to delve into dreams and goals.
Everybody has a flaw—and chances are they know it.
Their parents? Another family? A group of friends? A teacher?
What do they want more of in their life? For an extra challenge, preemptively ban “sleep” as an answer.
Time to get into what you both really care about.
A bit morbid, but it’ll definitely teach you more about who you’re talking to.
People often have idols and role models—famous or not—who played a huge role in shaping their personality, values, and interests.
Reflecting on ambitions and inspirations is one of the best conversation starters for work and networking events.
That's an interesting way to get people to talk about themselves without being invasive.
Some conversations just aren't suited for professional settings. To maintain a good reputation and build connections instead of pushing people away, steer clear of these conversation starters:
What's your sexual orientation?
When are you planning to have kids?
Have you ever committed any crimes?
How much do you make?
Are you single? Any plans for marriage?
Simply put, avoid questions that are too personal. People aren't obligated to share details about their relationships, finances, or personal choices—especially with someone they're just getting to know.