7 Networking Tips For Introverts—Whether At In-Person Events or Online

Being an introvert has its perks, but it can make networking and other adult life formalities tough. On one hand, introverts are good listeners and very observant. On the other hand, their social battery drains quickly, and they might struggle with shyness—making it hard to build connections.

Does that description resonate with you? Have you ever wondered, “How can an introvert get better at networking without wanting to crawl into a hole?” and most importantly, “Is it really necessary?” Well, it's a bit of a “bad news, good news” situation. While you can't afford to skip this part of your career growth, you can use some strategies to make it easier.  

To help, we've laid out eight networking tips for introverts—and for anyone who simply hates the idea of networking—whether you're attending in-person events or trying to build stronger connections remotely.

Why should introverts make an effort to network?

We all know social situations aren't introverts' favorite. But while it's perfectly fine to be a homebody in other parts of your life, your career could take a hit if you don't learn to properly network. You might miss out on hidden opportunities—those jobs that aren't publicly posted on jobs sites—or find yourself without anyone to pitch your ideas for partnerships or ask for recommendations.

Building meaningful relationships with peers in your field is the key to avoiding that. “Networking can truly open doors for you, even if you aren't networking with someone who can directly help you,” says Jamie Rivero, Corporate Vice President of Human Resources and Operations for Fox Run Brands and owner of the career coaching business Jamie Rivero LLC. “Most of the time, they have a connection they can introduce you to that can help you with whatever your goals are. I have had a lot of success with this.”

In a nutshell, networking can accelerate your career development and growth, connect you with prospective contributors, and uncover professional opportunities that you didn't even know existed. So, yes, it pays off. 

7 effective networking tips for introverts

You don't need to be the typical social butterfly to network. As an introverted person, you can still meet new people, make professional connections, and be just as successful as your extroverted peers. 

“Networking does not only mean going to large events at conferences,” says Career and Leadership Coach Judy Berman. “It can be 1:1, in small groups, in-person or virtual. It's about finding what's comfortable for you.”

Need some help getting started? This networking for introverts 101 guide will take you there:

1. Start with smaller networking events

If social situations are a challenge for you, dipping your toes into a large networking event might not be the best idea. Instead, begin your journey at smaller conferences where you can comfortably engage with a reasonable amount of potential connections.

Now, if any type of networking event leaves you wanting to run for the hills, don't panic just yet. Try inviting a new work contact to lunch or coffee for a 1:1 conversation. Once initiating conversations with strangers or acquaintances feels less intimidating, you can start with smaller events and then slowly move to larger ones—if you feel ready.

2. Leave the house with a plan

Things usually get easier if you have a plan—and networking is no exception. “Figure out what your goal for attending this networking event is and focus on achieving the goal,” Rivero says. Here's what you could do when planning your networking adventure:

• Research the list of attendees: If you can find the list of people attending the event, think about “who you would like to talk to and seek them out,” Rivero says. This will prevent you from the discouraging feeling of being lost among strangers.

• Pick a number of people to talk to: You don't need to talk to every single person at a networking event to make connections. Instead, pick a realistic number of people—somewhere between two to five should be your goal for the day.

• Make a list of things to talk about: To avoid awkward silences, think of some conversation starters. Besides business or work-related topics, you can bring up a hobby or passion. Rivero recommends picking a topic that gets you excited, as it can help you feel more comfortable. (In case you're out of ideas, here are 101 amazing conversation starters for any scenario.)

3. Have a “giving first” approach

Yes, people network with the hopes that those contacts will be valuable to them in the future—and there's nothing wrong about it. However, coming right out of the gate and asking for favors can be rude, and prevent you from making a meaningful connection. Instead, “ask how you can help before asking for help,” Berman says. 

As you get to know people and what they do professionally, you'll find opportunities to offer assistance. Let's say you're a marketing analyst chatting with a new business owner; you could offer to connect them with a talented marketing strategist you know to help boost their social media presence. Simple as that.

4. Bring a networking partner

If you're the type of introvert who feels uncomfortable doing new things alone, consider bringing a networking partner with you. This could be a friend or colleague you really get along with. If they're extroverted and outgoing, even better—they can help you start conversations and keep them going. 

Another benefit of having company at a networking event is feeling less stressed in a room full of strangers. You'll always have someone to talk to instead of awkwardly standing alone in a corner going through your cell phone (we've all been there).

5. Have some recovery time

For some introverts, talking with multiple people for hours can be overwhelming. Is that the case for you? Don't wait until your social battery is completely drained. “Give yourself some recovery time to replenish your energy,” Berman says. 

Take a few minutes to have a cup of coffee alone or step into the bathroom for some quiet time. If you've already interacted with the number of people you intended to, give yourself permission to leave and go home—there's typically no obligation to stay until the end of most events.

6. Pay attention to your body language

You won't always have to start a conversation with people. If your demeanor is inviting, others may initiate a chat with you. Introverts often tend to be more reserved, and some are shy, which can come with a “don't approach me” body language, like crossed arms or constantly looking down at a cell phone.

In a networking environment—and any social situation—try to have more welcoming body language so people feel comfortable approaching you. Check your phone less unless it's urgent, make more eye contact, and avoid sticking to the walls in a corner. 

7. Consider virtual networking

One introvert-friendly way to make professional contacts without relying on face-to-face conversations is virtual networking. Having a screen between you and other people—and the time to come up with a response—can often make things easier (and help you avoid those late-night thoughts about what you could have said differently). 

Here are some simple yet effective virtual networking tips for introverts:

• Leverage live virtual events: Workshops, summits, and live online courses are great ways to meet new people if you struggle with in-person events. Engage with other attendees in the chat, offer help or answer questions, and exchange social media if the opportunity arises.

• Use LinkedIn in your favor: LinkedIn is more than just a site to find jobs; it's a great networking tool where people expect to be approached by strangers. Search for groups of professionals from your industry and engage in relevant discussions, whether it's to help someone or simply share a thought. (This might help you: Making the Most of LinkedIn: Tips, Tricks, and Everything In Between)

• Invite a connection for a virtual coffee: If you feel comfortable having live video conversations, consider inviting a connection for a quick virtual coffee to get to know them better. “Come from a place of curiosity about the other person,” Berman says.

• Join virtual coworking spaces: You could also join virtual coworking spaces on your work-from-home days. Platforms like Focusmate and Cofocus connect you with other remote workers, offering opportunities to meet new people and develop connections.

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Bottom line

Even if you hate networking, its importance for professionals is undeniable. Introverts may have a harder time coming out of their shells to meet new people, but with a little planning and effort to step out of your comfort zone, the process can become easier. 

Remember, it's all about building meaningful relationships rather than just collecting a bunch of business cards. Don't feel pressure to meet dozens of people at once—take it slowly and in a way that feels realistic to you.