Boss degrading behavipr
I have been working for twenty plus years. In the last 5 years I have been under the same boss. This person is very degrading. He usually sets his sites in one particular person and that person is his target. He humiliates, degrades and throws in some swearing. At the end of the meeting you feel like you've been beaten down. Its almost as if it's all a show for the other people. Women seem to be a frequent target. There was a particular incident that he was screaming so loud on the phone that we heard his ranting all through the building. It's not easy to just throw everything you've worked for away and quit but sometimes I think it's cone down to more than simply sucking it up and letting it go. Any thoughts?
I have a similar boss, HUGE turnover, clients joked "you're still there"... I wrote him an email as I noted 'confronting' him did not accomplish anything; actually aggravated the situation. In the email, I treated him as a 'narcissus' and complimented his achievements, work ethic...then pointed out how his behaviour affected the culture and 'bottom line' of HIS business. He's an intelligent man and has been trying to 'control himself'... It's a start and we have a good positive work environment most times. Good Luck!
As I read this letter I could have thought it written by my daughter, but the bosses that pushed her to the brink were women. Don't think that only men harass others. Everything written above also could have been her writing it. Harassment is done by those who feel inadequate and inferior and the only way they can feel important is to bully others. It is sad because everyone knows how inadequate these people are, yet don't stand up and protect those being bullied. As for going to HR - it made no difference at my daughter's job (which was with a VERY big company). She had been there eleven years and created programs that enhanced the company all across the US. Another girl left less than a week after my daughter for the same reasons. This was in early summer and they have not been able to fill these two positions because word has gotten around about how awful these bosses are. HR admitted that they knew there was a problem. My daughter was denied the package she should have received after 11 years but decided instead of fighting for it she just wanted to have a life again. There are a lot of nasty people in the workplace and a lot of talented, smart people who quit the workplace because of them. My daughter is happier and will contribute her talents elsewhere when the time is right. The ones who lost were the company who lost her. So sad because her contributions made a big difference within the company.
I am considering a move to a new company and their maternity policy states that employees receive 3 months fully paid. It does not specify a minimum length of time one must be employed with the company to receive this benefit. Am I then legally protected to receive this benefit if I end up becoming pregnant within the first year of employment? Or must I clarify now (before deciding to accept the job) that I will receive this benefit regardless of my length of employment? I am nervous to be unhappily surprised down the road but also skeptical about bringing up this clarifying question now considering I am not currently pregnant. Would very much appreciate thoughts/help on this topic!
My salary and benefits package is set at a national level. How do I effectively negotiate for myself when my local contacts have no power in setting my compensation? My local boss has agreed that a change needs to be made, has discussed on my behalf with our local senior leadership and president, all of whom agreed with the new offer (which was created without my input, so I have not idea what changes the offer included). When passed on to the national HR department, it was shot down. How do you handle negotiation when local boss and co president approve pay change, but it's denied by national HR department? Do I try to move forward in pushing the subject, or is it time to jump ship and find a new opportunity?
Who is part of a women's resource group at your company? What do you like most, least?
I'm thinking about not coming back to work after my maternity leave -- even if I have to pay some of the pay I receive during leave. Nobody has asked me about whether I'm going to come back (they are just acting as if this will definitely happen when we talk about longer term projects) but I feel hugely guilty....and sometimes I think I should just quit now. Anyone been in this situation? any advice?
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