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Moving up
Evening guys,
So I with for this company. I have been here for 10 years. I am a general manager and I make decent money. I am not offered yearly raises. I do not get insurance. There isn't 401k. I am 32 years oldm I run their #1 store in their region. They offered me a position earlier in the year but I had to finish up school. I told them j would be ready in August. They came to me and told me I had to have someone to take my place in order for me to be promoted. They came at me a few days ago and the conversation started with them telling me they heard I had a second job. I told them yes they complained about how it wasn't good that I had another job and they demanded that I had to quit. I told them no that that's wasn't just going to happen like that. My boss then called me without my director on the phone and asked me " how the hell could I turn down such an opportunity?" I explained to him he can't tell me what I can and can not do in my free time and he exclaimed that yes the hell he could. The then told me I didn't like to listen to anyone. Claimed he was trying to help me to get to my next level and invest so much time and money in me.
I just don't know what to do with them right now I like my job but seriously. There is no policy staying I can't have another job and if I made more money and had benefits then maybe I could consider being all in. I didn't like the sneak attack move either. Please helo
Lynne CoganCareer Coach for Realizing Professional Dreams
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02/07/20 at 6:21PM UTC
I agree with almost everything written here. That includes reviewing the paperwork you signed when you were hired. (And, in the future, not only review such paperwork yourself, have an attorney go over it and discuss any clauses that might be detrimental to you.)
Also, you may have been offered a promotion but negotiate the terms. (I hate the word negotiate; it seems so competitive. What you want is a win/win.) You could ask for such things as
(1) Salary increase that is at least commiserate with your second job.
(2) Having the right to have additional income. That could be a second job, consulting work or other side gig, investments of any kind.
(3) Health insurance or funds to cover your purchasing insurance.
If you trust the company, and I'm not sure you do at this point, you could take some of this as pay for performance. For instance, receiving a percentage based on how much you increase their profits through revenues or savings. That could be a commission, overrides, a bonus. (Stock options is possible but tricky because you might have to pay taxes on it even though you haven't received any cash to cover it.)
EmpoweredGirl587631
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02/05/20 at 1:33PM UTC
Thank you guys!
Andi RosenbergerSeeking a new Facility Manager role
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02/03/20 at 5:10PM UTC (Edited)
I'm sorry you're having a rough time right now! I do have to admit your boss is right about one thing - you DO have to train a replacement. This is true of every job, at every level. Delegating tasks is something I struggle with myself, but I could not move forward until I learned how to do it. Pound your job down into a box and hand it to someone else. You'll learn a lot by teaching others and it will ultimately be appreciated by the right person.
As for the moon-lighting (2nd job), you should definitely review everything you signed when you started (Employment Letter/Agreement, Policies, and/or Handbook). Look for "Confidentiality" or "Conflict of Interest" to see if moon-lighting (aka having a 2nd job) is prohibited. It may be prohibited for salaried employees, supervisors or when the 2nd employer is a competitor. Take any questions to HR.
Andrea.NYCConsultative sales professional.
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02/01/20 at 8:27PM UTC
I agree with the other helpful posts... I am sorry that you are not being treated with the respect you deserve! I would save my money and look for another job managing a store where I could get the benefits needed in life, like insurance and retirement options! You can then negotiate all that you need in order to stay- of which finding your replacement is not one of them! It seems that the power balance is off and you need to steer your own life- they do not, in fact, own you. Good luck!
Kim WarnerOn a mission to clean up the fashion business...
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02/01/20 at 4:41AM UTC
Some of the interactions you're describing sound hostile (I don't truly know, I'm only saying this based on your description of events) which of course should never be tolerated.
Honestly, if you've worked for them for 10 years and this is how they treat you, then you should look for another job. If they truly valued your loyalty and contributions to the company they would approach you with respect and dignity. They do not own you; if you have to have a second source of income to make ends meet and it's not a conflict of interest nor do the schedules impact one another, then it's none of their business. Also, your promotion should not be contingent on you finding a successor for your current position. I understand if they want you to be involved in evaluating candidates, but it should not hinge on YOU hiring your replacement.
You might like your job, but I would seriously evaluate what you're dealing with here and act accordingly. Best of luck!
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