Hi everyone, I'm seeking a job today if there are female managers hiring. I'm facing extreme discrimination. An ex from 1990 told people I wanted sex, not a career, and he hasn't talked to me since 1990 NJ so didn't know. He exploited me for a job and I'm struggling with classic economic abuse. Does anyone know of a remote job that would hire older lady with background in multiple fields?

5 Comments

1. AnonymousJune 3,2024 at 8:03PM UTC

   This sounds awful and I feel for you. Job hunting is a grueling task but apply to as many jobs as you can and tailor your application or resume to each. You cannot just say “multiple areas of experience.” Everything is very competitive these days. And when you do get an interview, do not mention any of what you posted here. The world is supposed to be full of warm, understanding, open-minded people, but it is not—companies just want a hard worker, with no personal life and no baggage at work, to come in and get the job done.

2. JoyJune 6,2024 at 10:30PM UTC

   I understand. I never get good responses without whole story. Women who have had a bad divorce know. The guy essentially bragged about selling me (and twins) to his divorce attorney so he didn't have to pay the bill. The sex scandal my rival insists on telling is less than very famous people have anyway. Explains everything about why they post my photo and name on fake profiles on Facebook all the time. I don't use Facebook. Nothing I can do about "baggage", or "drama" if other people talk about it. Thanks for kind words anyway.

3. AnonymousJune 4,2024 at 4:43PM UTC

   If you are looking for something immediate, you might want to contact staffing agencies. I'm not sure what you mean about women being shut out of technology - I've never experienced this, despite being a woman (and over 40 at this point). Like the other commenter, I would advise you to definitely leave the personal stuff out of any professional interactions you have. Good luck!

4. JoyJune 6,2024 at 9:28PM UTC

   I've tried almost all of them. I have extreme situation that every place I contact, gets contacted with some sleazy accusation. I literally am having an ex-husband, or maybe just a guy I went on date once, call places and say I can't work unless I want to work in his brothel. I had an accident, so can't Uber like I had been to get away from him. So yes, I need a woman's help. If you need to hear entire story, it's already online. You can ask me for link. It's personal story. I was just exploited by a photographer in NYC but affected me career-wise only since 2018, but he tells people first which is why I wish his toxic behavior wasn't spreading to other men. He shouldn't be first to talk about sex or call former exes sleazy or sluts. That's all I wanted to make clear why I needed help from other women. The accusations are actually just made up and I am a great employee and team member. I needed to work for $ and I wanted to work regular jobs instead of being sex trafficked, if I can speak candidly. I'm not first victim, I wasn't the last victim, but I hope the day will be when women aren't stigmatized or marginalized for a lifetime based on mistakes in early 20's. Child victims of malicious men are allowed to work and I should be as well. Yes, they even claim to have done something to my kids on film, but I wasn't shown it so think it's a hoax. I'm sorry if this is too honest or too unusual for most of you. I wouldn't wish domestic violence on my worst enemy. If you have seen child victims online, please report it. I don't exactly look like I did in my 20's. Have a good weekend, ladies.

5. AnonymousJune 30,2024 at 12:25PM UTC

   If potential employers are blacklisting you due to this person’s psychotic behavior, it isn’t that they believe him. It’s more that they don’t want the drama or possible litigation down the road because this is troubling behavior.

   Tell me, how does a person you haven’t spoken to since 1990, or even someone you knew more recently, know what jobs you are applying to? Something doesn’t sit right with all of this.