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Lisa Stegeman
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05/23/20 at 5:09PM UTC (Edited)
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Interviewing as a Millennial

In this time of Generational Elitism, it can be difficult to interview and work with people who seem to dislike you based on your generation’s stereotypes. We are all guilty of it, but there are ways that we, as Millennials, can not only prove those stereotypes wrong, but also address the internalized issues in our workplaces. As a Millennial in the job search, I’ve found a few interview talking points that address some negative stereotypes, as well as build upon the good ones. 1. Include your pronouns in your email signature. Personally, as a part of the LGBT+ community, it’s important for me to state my own pronouns because, though I have a typically feminine name, I sometimes go by Lee, so announcing that I go by “she/her/hers'' in emails is important for efficient communication. But more importantly, it opens the door for Non-Binary, Trans, or otherwise Non-Cisgendered coworkers to feel comfortable telling me their desired pronouns. It’s a small gesture, but sometimes the little things are the most vital in creating an accepting workplace. This action directly confronts the idea that Millennials are incredibly "Politically Correct." While it feeds this stereotype, it begins the conversation about an accepting, modern, forward-thinking workplace, and if an interviewer has a problem with that, they're waving a gigantic red flag in your face. 2. Ask about Gender Dynamics and HR Initiatives relating to Gender Equality within the company. According to a 2015 Earnst & Young case study, more often than not, companies (or leadership therein) are mostly male. While it shouldn’t be a dealbreaker, it is more than reasonable as an interviewee to ask about the actual numbers within the company, and the response you get is twofold. If they don’t know their own numbers, it tells you that it’s not at the forefront of their HR priorities, signaling that gender representation and equality is not important to them. If they do know their numbers, regardless of what they are, it means that their finger is on the pulse of the ever-changing-gender-dynamics in a modern workplace, and therefore they care in some capacity. As a woman, it absolutely must matter to you if your employer is aware of gender equality within their own office. 3. Ask how they addressed the COVID-19 lockdown and what they did to support their employees. If you’re looking for an office job, there is probably a work-from-home protocol for desk employees, and the answer you get should be pretty straightforward. However, if they have a warehouse, a factory, a store, or any other job that might not be WFH friendly, as we have seen, it is more than possible for them to leave their employees spinning in the wind without income. According to data collected by the Economic Policty Institute from a February 2020 study, up to 60% of lower-income workers (not necessarily "essential workers") do not have access to paid time off. These people were left not only without a job, but also without any financial support from their employer. While there might not be a perfect answer here, as not every company has the capacity to pay workers through a six-plus-week shutdown, making sure they tried to take care of their employees is very telling as to how they’ll take care of you as a future employee. 4. Ask about advancement opportunities from the position. Typically, Boomers and Gen X are the ones hiring us, Millennials and Gen Z, and the biggest predisposed idea we face is that we don’t care. In 2019, Akumina released a Millennial Workplace Survey, which gave us a large portion of the data from which stereotypes were pulled, and it does support one of the most misunderstood stereotypes; Millennials like to “Job-Hop,” meaning they spend about six months with a company, then quit and start somewhere else. Many assume it is because we don't care about a career, or because our passions are fleeting, but the reality is that most of us are struggling to find a job that not only has upward mobility for us, but also has meaning. We want to do work that fulfills us and has an impact on our world, and the job market doesn't make that easy. Asking an interviewer about advancement opportunities shows them that you care about building a career and that you are dedicated to your job. Talking openly about the challenges we face in the workplace and how we are working fix them is the first step in building a healthy worker-boss relationship. It can be tricky to navigate, but using these talking points to connect with your interviewer can help you find a job that you love and a company that loves you back.

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Ellen W.
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06/01/20 at 5:13PM UTC
Lisa, I understand where you are coming from because we both feel strongly about the wrongs that have been and unfortunately still are are committed against people due to racism, sexism, sexual orientation, and religion, but this isn't a competition. While it's true that people have been (and sometimes still are) killed because of their race or sexual orientation, it doesn't nullify the problem of ageism. It's just something that you haven't seen yet...but unfortunately, you will. You said that being laid off because of a higher salary is not directly correlated to age. Actually, it often is. When someone has been at a company for many years and has received the customary raises that often accompany solid performance, they end up with higher salaries. One of my former employers, a private school, cleaned house like this in order to cut expenses. These teachers and administrators weren't let go because they weren't good at their jobs, but because the school could hire people right out of college or with just a few years of experience for a lot less. The school had very creative reasons for letting these people go but what they all had in common was that they all were older (mid-50's+). Age diversity adds strength to a team just like diversity of race, gender, religion, etc. and the school lost an important perspective and contribution when it pushed out so many people from one specific demographic. Before the house cleaning, we had a nice spectrum of age diversity. Just as some Boomers and GenXers stereotype Millennials, some Millennials also stereotype Boomers and GenXers (not good with technology, inflexible/resistant to change, low energy, etc.). Neither is fair because while the stereotypes may fit some individuals in the group, they don't fit all and nobody likes to be stereotyped.
Rebecca Lee V
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06/01/20 at 3:52PM UTC
A little advise here, you will never get people on your side in this forum with your attitude. There are a great many women on this platform over the age of 40 trying to find work so they can keep a roof over their heads and food on the table. Ageism is a serious problem for many of them. You cannot dismiss their struggle because you've never experienced it or it is not part of your narrative. I have been part of this platform for only a short period of time and have found everyone here extremely supportive and openminded to everyone.
Lisa Stegeman
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06/01/20 at 5:15PM UTC
I have not denied the existence of ageism at all, and I have no attitude. Your age group is not the only one trying to find work and pay your bills. Actually, your age group is the most exclusive and rude when it comes to this conversation, and it seems it's because none of you want to recognize that you aren't always the authority and you aren't always right. Just because you are facing hardship doesn't mean others aren't. I haven't once dismissed your struggle, yet you and the others in this comment section have tried to dismiss mine nonstop. You are being incredibly myopic, and with your attitude, it's no wonder no one wants to work with you.
Rebecca Lee V
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06/01/20 at 12:05PM UTC
When you are in your mid 40s and beyond, trying to get a job but are reject based on your age. Ageism will be as important you to as racism. Discrimination comes in my forms: race, religion, sex and age.
Lisa Stegeman
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06/01/20 at 2:25PM UTC
You're absolutely right, ageism is something we are unfortunately under-aware of in the workplace, and hopefully we can work to overcome that. However, your struggle does not undermine others' struggles. And I completely disagree that ageism is or will ever be anywhere near as prevalent as racism. There have never been riots or protests against older people working. Older people have never been fired, assaulted, attacked, or killed for their age, as thousands of people have been for their sex, religion, or sexual orientation. Ageism is not something that should ever be compared to racism, sexism, and homophobia.
Anonymous
06/01/20 at 2:51PM UTC (Edited)
Are you kidding me? People have never been fired for their age? You've got a lot to learn, chick. When the layoffs start, the older people are the first to go because our salaries are higher. They won't tell you it's because of your age, they'll use other excuses - but we know. We get discriminated against in hiring ALL. THE. TIME. Maybe do a little research before you go laying yourself down in your little Millennial martyrdom. AARP estimates that 2/3 of workers between the ages of 40 and 74 have seen or experienced age discrimination in the workplace. The New York Time wrote about it a scant year ago - https://www.nytimes.com/2019/06/07/business/economy/age-discrimination-jobs-hiring.html. Educate yourself before you go telling that your problems are worse than others'.
Lisa Stegeman
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06/01/20 at 3:08PM UTC
Okay, I admit people have been fired for age. But where are your sources for riots? The has someone been attacked or killed for their age? Do not put ageism on the same level as racism, sexism, and homophobia. Being laid off for a higher salary is not directly correlated to age. Get off your high horse and comment off anonymous like an adult.
Anonymous
05/30/20 at 3:05PM UTC
It’s funny, Millennials (who are also middle class and White, maybe?) are trying to think about ways to improve their image and responses, as a way to mitigate. For the truly marginalized, applicants over 55, applicants of color, applicants with disabilities, people from the LGBTQ community .... it doesn’t matter what we do, the discrimination is there. Some folks need to discover what privilege really is.
Lisa Stegeman
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05/31/20 at 4:05PM UTC
There is nothing intrinsically white or middle class about Millennials, as it's a generation based on age. This has nothing to do with privilege, rather with working to create a workplace free from discrimination and inequality. You're making a rather bold statement for someone commenting on anonymous. When you're ready to join the conversation as an adult who can show their face behind their words, please do so.
Anonymous
06/01/20 at 2:38PM UTC
You are amazingly insulting. If you can't take the criticism, you shouldn't be writing in public forums.
Lisa Stegeman
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06/01/20 at 3:09PM UTC
You're not criticizing, you're complaining because I am offering information that you don't agree with. If you can't handle this conversation, which you clearly cannot because you're anonymous, you shouldn't be commenting.
Anonymous
05/30/20 at 1:48PM UTC
I’m not at all convinced Millennials are overly politically correct, either. The derogatory, “OK, Boomer,” comes to mind.
Lisa Stegeman
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05/31/20 at 4:31PM UTC (Edited)
The phrase "Ok Boomer" is not a derogatory term, but I understand why you might think that. A derogatory term is a term thrown at a minority, whether is race, gender, sexuality, religion, etc. Boomer is not a part of these groups. Actually, this is a phrase used to reflect the general narrow-mindedness of the Boomer generation and their disdain for anyone who disagrees with them. The irony is rather thick here.
Anonymous
06/01/20 at 2:37PM UTC (Edited)
Seriously? It's not a derogatory term? Your response makes my argument for me. It's an AGEIST sentiment. Are you telling me that denigrating someone because of their age is not the same as discriminating against them due to race, gender, sexuality, religion, etc.? Like I said, you're just proving my point. In a post meant to decry the ageism against your cohort, you are defending ageism against another cohort.
Lisa Stegeman
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Copywriter// Creative Writer// LGBT+
06/01/20 at 3:11PM UTC
I'm not saying ageism doesn't exist. I'm saying it is nowhere near as problematic as racism, sexism, and homophobia. Your privilege is showing. You're clearly white, straight, and cisgendered, and you're angry that you don't get sympathy. Please stop commenting.
Deborah Mitchell
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05/06/20 at 5:08PM UTC
So I think you mean Gen Xers and Boomers are doing hiring I think. Gen Y is the same as Millennial. (Though often it seems Millennial is applied to Gen Z too, because the older generation assumes that everyone new to the workforce is a millennial.) I'm not sure including pronouns in your signature line is going to make any impression on a hiring manager, but it is good an important to know. I do know that asking about advancement and being overly focused on the next position versus the position you are interviewing for can be seen as a red flag. Of course, your mileage may vary. I've never though millennials/Gen Y are particularly politically correct. Can you share where that comes from?
Lisa Stegeman
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Copywriter// Creative Writer// LGBT+
05/31/20 at 4:13PM UTC
Including pronouns in an email might not mean much to a straight, cisgendered hiring manager, but that is not who this act is for. This is a small act aimed at the marginalized LGBTQ+ members of the workplace. And I absolutely agree that being "overly focused" on advancement is not the goal, but that is not what I said at all. Rather, we should make sure the interviewer understands that we are looking for a career within the company, as so many younger job seekers are stereotyped as not only lazy, but quick to leave a job that doesn't suit their interests. Focusing on this briefly in an interview shows that you care about your future within the company. I'm not sure where the idea that Gen Y is "politically correct" truly originates, but there is a definite presumption that we are 'sensitive' and 'snowflakes' for caring about equality and acceptance. And this is of course not true for every workplace on the planet, but it's something that does exist whether we acknowledge it or not, and it's our responsibility to combat it.
Ellen W.
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Just trying to make a difference. :-)
04/29/20 at 4:05PM UTC
A comment from a Boomer to Millennials: Most of us keep in mind that stereotypes can be applied to every group--including Boomers--, so try not to assume we are stereotyping you as that could affect your confidence going into an interview. Personally, I feel very strongly that the best team is a diverse team...and that includes age diversity.
Lisa Stegeman
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Copywriter// Creative Writer// LGBT+
05/31/20 at 4:15PM UTC
Thank you for this, I genuinely appreciate your open-mindedness! Unfortunately, not everyone thinks this way, and as people entering a workplace at the bottom, we must address these issues and stereotypes that can prevent us from getting jobs at all in an already oversaturated job market.
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