How do I politely and professionally tell my manager that certain topics are inappropriate and I don’t care to talk about them at work?
Our office culture is pretty laid back for the most part, and I don’t mind having certain conversations, but I’d rather leave some topics outside of the work place. My manager recently called me into her office (not unusual) to have an in-depth conversation about the state of race in America (unusual). She asked a couple of questions and I gave generic (but genuine) answers. She then went on to give me scenarios to see how I felt about them. Some were very specific, others were more general but still personal i.e. what race is my medical doctor. This was NOT a casual/informal conversation. It was very formal, and I felt quite uncomfortable. I felt obligated to answer to her and listen to her in-depth “presentation” so to speak. The conversation lasted 30 minutes or so. Maybe more. We have no diversity initiatives or any other work-related reasons to have had this conversation. She said she wanted to get a young POC’s opinion and was doing a sort of personal survey. For context, she is also a POC. It was almost as if I was being called in because I had shown some sort of prejudice. That’s not the case (I’m what most people would call uptight or weird by some, so I don’t engage that much; I’m not as laid back as my other coworkers), but it felt that way. I know she didn’t mean any harm, and we have talked about personal issues in the past, so I’m sure she thought this conversation was okay, but I didn’t appreciate the way it was presented. Thoughts?
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