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My sister and I both live in the same apartment complex and she tried to tell me who I can and cannot have over to stay the night who I can and cannot date who I can and cannot talk to where I can and cannot go and if I stay out all night she wants to know where I've been I'm a grown woman 37 years why does my sister keep doing this she's 41 yesterday she called the cops on my boyfriend he works nights he was asleep I was at work she was tired of him being there so she was going to call the cops on them so I went over there my nephew busted down my door started beating my boyfriend in the head with his fist while he was still asleep they would not stop I was trying to get them out of the house he was naked and they pulled the covers off of him and exposed he has sent him to my mother my father my sister my nephew and his wife with my nephew was the one doing the beating why did my sister get everybody so riled up like this why can't you stay out of my business and just leave me alone
JenInterdisciplinary Educator
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09/10/20 at 2:44PM UTC
Setting and maintaining boundaries can be very difficult, and even more so when family is involved. I too, have a strange and extremely complicated relationship with my sister. A suggestion is set your boundaries (no, you will not tell me who to date/talk to/invite over), give reminders calmly (remember, you cannot choose who I spend my time with), and remind her of the consequences (I will not participate in this conversation any longer). If she continues, you do have the right to get up and walk away. Immediately. It'll feel awkward and horrible the first few times. But you are reinforcing that boundary with her. Sounds like boundaries are difficult for her to respect. So, show her how to respect yours. Good luck.
