Life change move to new city- Accepted job and it’s wrong
Hey there!
So I have been high level exec asst working for COO and in compliance in nyc at investment firm. I have always had executive assistant titles but that’s not the real description of what I do. I am more of analyst, associate, and HR wrapped in one. I desperately wanted a career change started working with a few career coaches over the last 3 years.
I wanted to leave nyc and with pandemic I did. I took of leap of faith moved to Phoenix. When I started search there were many director of operations roles jobs but those dried up. So August hit knew my nyc company had layoffs coming. So I told myself I needed something to get me started in Phoenix and left my nyc firm.
I did what I said I would not. I accepted another executive assistant job. It’s been a month in the job I am miserable. I joined technology management consulting company and it’s very sketchy . I am just not comfortable. I know I should be grateful but it’s horrible. I hate to be on search and have to Potentially reach out to references but I can’t do this long term. Everything is micromanaged, company misled on 401k and have to wait a year, no coffee, no phones. Asked to come in late use vacation time was an issue. I only took role out of wanting to get situated knew it wasn’t long term thing. I just can’t handle the founder referring to me as administrative assistant and HR and cfo making sure to put me in my place as executive assistant. Every conversation they mention title 10 times.
Thoughts on leaving job just joined.
Tessa Larsen
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02/20/23 at 10:06PM UTC
Hey girl! It has been a couple years and I was reading your thread... I am so curious if you were able to find the career you wanted? I have been in healthcare the last 10 years and I was possibly trying to get into executive assisting but knowing you can get micromanaged like you have... that sounds no bueno!! I would do horrible with that kind of environment too
Kelley Shields, Career & Professional Development CoachWork shouldn't be a 4-letter word.
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09/14/20 at 4:01PM UTC
Ugh, I'm so sorry, this sucks. It's absolutely fine to leave a job you just started if it's a bad situation. You don't want to regularly do that, but there are lots of ways to deal with that in future job applications and job interviews. Your mental health is more important!
It seems like you have the groundwork and experience to make a move out of being an exec assistant pretty readily - it sounds like there is still some work to be done to figure out what career(s) really gets you excited, but there are plenty of ways to position yourself into something different for the short term while you figure that out. It might just be a question of job search strategy and/or how you brand yourself.
Have you done any work into possible "bridge" positions to take a step closer to a business operations role and help you get clearer on what within that would be a good fit for you? Or since you mentioned applications, on the most effective job search strategies?
Since Trina mentioned this, I would highly recommended Lisa Lewis Miller's (the admin of this group) Career Clarity program if you decide to get another coach. It really works - I did it myself. (Full disclosure, I'm a Career Clarity coach, but all of the coaches are awesome! And there's a free ebook on the site, if you don't want anything else. www.getcareerclarity.com)
J H
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11/13/20 at 3:19AM UTC
Hi Kelley Shields! Thanks for response, sorry taken so long to respond. You made some great points to check out. I did actually leave that horrible job and take something else but as you mentioned. While it is much better and within business operations area it has own set issues I am working through as new employee in remote environment.
Good chance you may hear from me soon. There is still work to be done. Thanks again for your words of wisdom:)
Kelley Shields, Career & Professional Development CoachWork shouldn't be a 4-letter word.
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11/13/20 at 4:11PM UTC
Hey JH, so glad to hear that you left that horrible job! Thanks for following up with that update! And for sure, there are totally issues with being a new employee in a remote environment. I'll be happy to connect any time! :-)
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Trina
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09/10/20 at 8:39PM UTC
You poor thing, that's just an awful situation to be in. You defiantly need to get out of there. A good career coach should be able to help you find a new career. I came across Madeline Mann on Youtube and know people who have used her and got good results... Or perhaps others on here can make recommendations of people they've worked with first hand.
J H
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09/10/20 at 11:18PM UTC
Thanks, Trina.
I will check her out.
I had been using a career coach for a year. I get like made progress but still in same type of job. I still don’t have a clear path besides roles focusing on business operations. So taking stab fingers crossed little time will as start to apply again. Praying to get out here.
