How to cope when your coworkers lose their jobs?
I'm finding myself grieving for other colleagues who were just laid off. My emotions are all over the place. I feel guilty that I still have a job. I'm sad for their loss. I'm not sure if/how to communicate this to that person. Can anyone else relate? Any and all tips for coping would be much appreciated. Thank you!
I work at a small startup company and feel like a wave of layoffs may be on the horizon based on what I've heard, so I'm mentally preparing myself now. One thought that's helping ease my anxiety is the fact that I, and my coworkers, are extremely talented and capable. Also, I know leadership at our company truly values everyone of us. So, whatever's to come, I know it isn't personal, just serious, and we'll land on our feet. Speaking it into existence!
There is another post in here about survivor's guilt. What I ask is that you refrain from using the word guilty on yourself. Guilt implies you committed an act or offense against your colleagues, you didn't.
What you are feeling is extreme empathy and I want to say THANK YOU, for being human, especially in a time where human is what we need to be.
You cannot change what is happening to colleagues or friends so consider what you can change, what action can you take that will make you feel like you are helping in a situation like this that is out of your control.
Maybe you can introduce these individuals to others within your network so they can expand their opportunity pool. Maybe host a virtual wine chat where everyone can talk about their feelings, offer help with resumes, interviewing and introductions. Use your human qualities to make a difference and I do believe you will feel so much better.
I have been on both ends, the one with the job remaining and the one laid off. I always stayed in touch with my colleagues, sent my concern and care and texted about job openings I knew about. We are all still friends and in touch. This is a great way to keep networking in case you ever are laid off, your colleague could of ended up at a great company and will alert you when they are hiring! Life goes full circle. You never know who may end up being your next manager or colleague? Stay connected and friendly.
I think it can't possibly hurt to reach out and say that you'd love to keep in touch if and when they are ready. This way they don't feel pressured to respond as they absorb their own feelings and come to terms with what has happened.