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Hi Ladies!
I'm new to FGB and I'd love some advice. I've been at my company for almost 15 years and have always been a high performing employee. I've been in my current group for about 2.5 years. The department I'm in has a lot of turnover and in the past year I went from the newest member on the team to the most senior member.
Back in October, a new position was created and my manager was promoted. That opened up two new manager positions. One was the backfill to my manager's job and the other was a newly created position. I applied and interviewed for the positions. The first one was quickly filled by an individual who has manager experience and had been on another team under my team's larger umbrella, so that made sense. Filing the second position was dragged out for months. I interviewed prior to Thanksgiving and finally heard the decision in early March. I was not chosen. My former manager selected an individual who has been at our company for barely two years and is two "levels" below the manager position, which is not common. I'm the same level as the manager position. I was very upset since I feel I have a ton of great experience and while I've never been a manager before, I've been in jobs where I was performing tasks akin to a manager. Also, I had put in the time in my current role and was surprised and hurt they would go outside the group for someone with less experience. The individual selected is a man (a younger man to be exact). I'm the only female and parent on my team. I work in finance/securities regulation so its a very male dominated environment as is. To make matters worse, the same week I was told I didn't get the job, I was asked to train the new manager on some of our job functions. Fortunately my manager (the one who was selected for the first of the two openings), told my former manager that wasn't right so I didn't have to train him.
I'm also not satisfied with the explanation of why the individual was selected. From what I understand he's "smart," yet doesn't have any experience with the data we look at or the types of reviews/cases we handle which was quickly evidenced by needing to be trained on some of our most basic functions.
This was quite long winded but I'd love to get feedback with some suggestions on how to handle this situation going forward. Especially when it comes to remaining graceful and professional despite being extremely hurt. I also feel like I'll never be "smart" enough for former manager. I really don't want to leave my current department or the company, however I feel very undervalued and believe I have so much more to offer.
Also, if this isn't the right FGB group for this type of conversation, I'd love some recommendations!
Thanks in advance! I'm excited to be part of the FGB community!
-Nikki
You are right to be upset. It doesn’t seem the selection process was done professionally. Maybe they were able to pay him less than you would have expected to have been paid and that’s not information you would be privy to so they can’t explain that to you. Did you ask for an explanation?? I would ask your immediate manager what skills you were lacking that made them look elsewhere and see if there is room for improvement that you weren’t cognizant of. Asking you to train the person who got the job you were trying for is tone deaf on whoever’s decision that was and I’m happy your manager stepped in and didn’t allow that. I would be equally upset but just try to find the lesson this is trying to teach you, we can always find ways of growing from the most unfair situations. Good luck dear!!! You got this!!!