Girl on Girl Hate

7 Comments

1. Nikki PowersApril 6,2021 at 10:20PM UTC

   I think this would be a great addition. I grew up feeling like other women were my "competition". I learned it from movies, tv, family, books...even Disney was part of that bad narrative. My generation (GenX) was taught that another women is always your competition - looks, love, career, family, friends, etc. It wasn't until I was in my late 30's that I realized how not right that thinking was. I think it's important that we are able to research what's out there that lends to the negative narrative and what's out there that helps us combat that narrative.

2. Colleen FerraryAugust 24,2021 at 7:21PM UTC

   I would love for you to elaborate on your Disney comment!!

3. Nikki PowersSeptember 1,2021 at 9:21PM UTC

   Sure! Happy to...in terms of Disney, I grew up watching movies where women fought against other women. Sleeping Beauty, Cinderella, The Little Mermaid, Snow White - to name just a few. It was few and far between where a woman could be empowered on her own. We were also shown that a woman needed a man to "save" her. Merida was the first Disney "princess" that fought against the tide in terms of "needing" a man. Disney taught so many of us in my generation and prior that women shouldn't trust other women and that we need men in order to be "whole". They still push that narrative in certain shows and movies. They've gotten better...but not by much.
   There were a few Disney movies that I watched as a kid that showed women who were single and empowered...but they were witches. Sooo...not really sure there. My favorite Disney movie has always been Bedknobs and Broomsticks....empowered woman who is a witch of sorts.

4. AnonymousApril 11,2021 at 1:32PM UTC

   It's a real thing and a huge career wound. I would prefer to work with a group on men anytime!

5. Colleen FerraryAugust 24,2021 at 7:20PM UTC

   I love your honesty! Can anyone give me examples I can use (of course, fictitious names/companies are fine!)

6. AnonymousAugust 12,2021 at 1:43AM UTC

   I must've lucked out because this was never an issue for me. All but one of my 7 bosses were women, and those who were competent (4 of them) had a huge impact on me. The single time I worked in a majority-male team, I had to constantly watch my back.

7. CassandraApril 23,2022 at 5:44PM UTC

   This has definitely happened to me. I just don't understand it. Especially when we work in different roles. It's not like there is a risk of one of us taking the other's job. We can all be phenomenal together!!