How do you get over the imposter syndrome ?
I feel like everyone at work thinks of me less. Nothing I do is accurate, etc. of course, I know this to not be true but it’s always there!
Maegan, Nike Sales Rep & Career Coach
Helping you know your value to get your next job
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12/10/21 at 8:39PM UTC
Start thinking about what YOU think about you instead of thinking about others first.
When you mess up - what do you make that mean about you? How do you want to think about "mess ups"?
When you get things right - how does that add value to the company you work at?
Getting good at tracking your performance and really focusing on the value of what you do is a proven way to overcome imposter syndrome and start truly feeling confident in yourself and your work. I am happy to talk you through my process if you want to sign up for a consult call ! The easiest way to get in touch is through the link in my instagram bio @maegankmiller .
You got this!
Barb HansenStartup Product, Growth & Strategy
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12/03/21 at 4:58PM UTC
Here are some immediate tactics that I used earlier in my career (and occasionally still use)
1. I tell that "you're an imposter" voice in my head to f-off when it starts talking (you can choose whatever word works for you).
2. I remind myself that hundreds of thousands of mediocre white men who are thriving in their careers with less skills than I have.
Additional item: If your imposter syndrome related to your current job, remember that they interviewed you, and they hired you because they knew you could do the job. Trust their judgement and see item #1 above when that voice starts talk.
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Jackie GhedineCoach Gen X Women|Host Modern GenX Woman podcast
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12/03/21 at 12:23PM UTC
I'm sad you feel this way at all. Undermining your own self worth is very common, especially for women, and it is the main reason we hold ourselves back from having the professional success we want.
Imposter Syndrome is real and it is natural. However, there is a difference between it 'popping up' every so often versus a constant running voice in your head (which is what it seems to be).
You have to change the narrative and begin to create a new one.
Nothing I do is accurate is your set point because you are ONLY focusing on what isn't working. It's time to create what we call at Modern Gen X Woman, the Worth Log. Grab a notebook or the notes section of your phone and log everything you do correctly in a day. Even small accomplishments like sending a timely and thoughtful email response to a vendor/client/colleague.
The first order of business is to collect evidence of ALL THE THINGS YOU DO RIGHT, you'll be amazed by how awesome you really are ❤️
Another simple in the moment trick is to name your imposter. My clients usually name her a mean girl in school (or Heather because of the movie Heathers ?). Anytime the imposter rears her head, call her by the name, Heather, you're just a bully trying to intimidate me and I'm not going to let you do it. Or you can say, Heather, I'm not sure why you are questioning my abilities. Naming her separates you from those emotions of uncertainty.
If you want more support on this, I invite you to join our Facebook Community, Modern Gen X Woman ❤️?
Anonymous
12/03/21 at 2:54AM UTC
if you have EAP benefits, try some therapy. If you don't have those benefits, try some therapy. :) Good luck.
Anonymous
12/03/21 at 1:14AM UTC
It may sound extreme but therapy is the fastest and most effective way to combat this.
You have to unravel the root of this thinking and your beliefs. This thinking is rooted somewhere amabd to replace it with more positive thinking you must first unravel the root cause.
Once you do this it's fairly easy reorder your unique process of thinking and establish a new pattern. This does not take years of therapy nor is it that traumatic.
You can then identify your triggers and objectively stop this thinking before it takes hold
This syndrome is subtle & is built over time without you really noticing. It's more common than you think. Welcome to the club.
Heide FramilWorking Mom
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12/03/21 at 12:52AM UTC
For a start, don't think like one. Believe in yourself and know your worth. Differentiate fact from feelings. From time to time, you'll feel less or stupid, but it happens to everyone. And it doesn't mean that you are. The fact is, you are not less or stupid. Improve yourself, if you must and need. And don't hesitate to ask for help.
