Does Burnout cover abuse?
I was wondering if this group also covers and deals with abuse? My last job was a nightmare, my boss systematically tore me down and exploited my anxiety/depression, locked me in her office to scream at me, etc. My confidence, despite the fact that this was my field and she was only there because she was someone's friend, was tanked. I know I shouldn't be upset, I mean, it's not like she's a professional and she's just flexing small town power trip, but it tore me up to be treated so poorly for so long, and then to lose the customers I loved on top of it. How do I recover from being burned out like this? I worry that I'll encounter another one like her and not be able to find the workplace that truly supports me. Help? If this is not appropriate for this forum, please delete.
These kind of bosses Dump their insecurities on others.
I had a boss call me furniture , I was at work a lot .
He count not know how to calculate , 50-38 ( used calculator twice).He got promoted after 15 years on the job.
Now I have hard time moving on to next job w same fear of verbal abuse. They tend to give bad references and wipe out hard work. Not fair .
These bad bosses effect all aspects of your life.
Verbal abuse is illegal in USA. You should have recorded her and use legal action .
Also extreme depression is considered as disability . Good luck and don’t shy away .
If you have proof, get her fired cause they will abuse the next person .
It goes as far as suicide ; my friends best friend killed herself , while on the phone complaining about her boss harassing her .
Not funny or lightly taken subject .
I have a girlfriend quite the same boss ( furniture) we had
She is on meds and cries at new interviews . ?
Good Luck
I would love to talk more with you and will share my link to book time at the end. In the meantime, consider this definition of confidence: Your willingness to feel any feeling. You've been through so much in this and past jobs (not to mention personally too), and you've felt the full spectrum of feelings, and you've survived. Sometimes, just remembering you can survive the worst feelings can be an encouragement.
If you'd like to talk more, you're welcome to find a time that works for you here: bit.ly/TarahKeechLetsTalk
Rooting for you!
Hey! I did see a lawyer about her actions since it violated both the ADA and workplace harassment laws, but they told me I couldn't just sue her, I had to sue the business and the town, and unfortunately, they do a lot of good (free meals for the poor, etc) and run on a limited budget, so I couldn't bring myself to deprive the town's people of stuff like that. The town isn't doing great on its own as it is. Small town politics being what they are, I was also concerned for my husband's job and I haven't been able to find anything, but we're moving out of the state soon.
1. I kind of just want to be allowed to perform my job duties without excessive oversight. I've never had a bad performance review, but I've always been over-managed. I feel like a lot of bosses feel they constantly need to find something for you to improve, so I've always been told to do better, but never given any ways to improve. When I ask, I've always been given to whole, "Be a self starter and stop bothering me" routine. I don't want to be the boss myself, I prefer the creative aspect, but I want to just be allowed to exist in my role without meddling middle management.
2. That's the real question. My doubt tells me that this means I'm not good at what I do, that I'm a really bad employee, but my husband and friends assure me I've just had a few bad bosses. (Before this, I worked at a prison therapy program where I left my job because my boss instituted an extremely strict pecking order system with no communication allowed, refused to let us get anything in writing, (He was terrified of evidence) and started putting my personal safety at risk when he told me I wasn't allowed to call the guards when I was being threatened by our resident murderers.)
I should be able to see that I've had a few bad bosses, right? But I feel like if I'm so good, I should be able to have overcame these bad bosses and kept my jobs. I know bad bosses are everywhere, but I can't help but keep blaming myself. I feel like it is saying that I will never find a job that is right for me, that I will still be finding new jobs every few years up until retirement. Rebuilding my confidence is so slow going right now...
Yes! Thank you for posting, sharing and spurring the conversation. I will say, this sounds like potential ground for legal action, which I can't advise on.
However, talking through your thoughts about what happened, why and what you want to create with your future is exactly what we're here for!
Two questions to start:
1. What do you most want in your next chapter/ role?
2. What do you feel like this past experience means about you?