Started new job, already on wrong path, need advice
In a nutshell - left my old job due to burnout, took time off, started new job, then covid happened. I’m now working from home for this new company and burning out. I don’t know how to work remotely and have a normal schedule so I just work work work. I’m also still trying to prove myself as I’m brand new and highly paid for this company. I’m worried about job security as the company’s business is suffering right now because of covid. I don’t want to burn out though and become exhausted and bitter again. Struggling to find the right balance here. Please advise!
Jackie Ruka
ProfessionalHappyologist Thrive in your purpose.
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06/03/20 at 3:04AM UTC
Burnout is real. My experience from working with hundreds of women, we tend to be overachievers and continue the pattern, sacrificing our health, relationships and happiness. My suggestion is address the root cause so you don't repeat the pattern over and over. Determine your why? The purpose that feels good and right for you as opposed to your psyche and subconscious holding on to survival and proving yourself as a form of working and living. Flip it on it's head. Let's unblock your limiting beliefs so you can feel free and determine with clarity the next steps that are healthy and liberating for you and get you on your RIGHT path?
Elizabeth Ghinea-DwellyClinical Program Director with Advocates
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03/28/20 at 1:09AM UTC
I am right there with you. I recently started a new job and starting a job in the era of COVID-19 is not an easy thing to do. Congratulations for getting out of your last job and taking care of yourself. Congratulations again for being able to feel the burnout coming on and knowing that you need to do something now before you get past the point of being able to manage it. Both of those are very difficult things to do!
Setting boundaries with ourselves is difficult, especially at the beginning of a new job. When you throw working at home it becomes even more so. It is important to create a new routine that is different and encompasses the additional need for breaks when at home and if you feel you can't stop yourself at the end of your work day, set a timer! I know I can get caught up in my work at times and having a timer go off is a super easy way to remind me that even though I don't have to drive home now I do have to pack up my work stuff and put it away until tomorrow. Then find some self-care activities to fill your time in the evenings. Things that make you want to put your work down and give you something to look forward to.
Anonymous
03/28/20 at 10:28AM UTC
Thanks for sharing. Congrats on starting your new job! I hope it turns out well for you!
Jackie GhedineCoach Gen X Women|Host Modern GenX Woman podcast
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03/24/20 at 11:05AM UTC
When starting a new job, we often overcompensate by working long hours and saying yes to everything that comes our way — it's human nature.
However, it isn't sustainable so good job already recognizing your personal signs that you are powering through.
When we don't create boundaries and push ourselves to the point of burnout, much of that is based in lack of confidence or fear.
What are you so afraid of? Is your imposter syndrome rearing its ugly head?
Regardless if you were working from home or not, you need to address what is driving you to keep working and unravel that in order to stop the behaviors.
Some basic advice about our brains: We think pushing ourselves proves our worth but there is a diminishing return from exhausting our prefrontal cortex (where our thought work comes from). If you want to be productive and successful, giving yourself ample space to recharge is critical - it minimizes mistakes and helps processing.
Take a look at your behaviors and decide:
Why am I making this choice? What am I afraid of if I don't choose this? What behaviors aren't working for me and pushing me toward burnout?
I hope this kickstarts you!
LATONYA FOSTERA BADASS woman with SUPERBADASS goals & dreams!
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03/26/20 at 3:08PM UTC
Love this response!
Jackie GhedineCoach Gen X Women|Host Modern GenX Woman podcast
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03/27/20 at 1:22PM UTC
Thank you LaTonya! and I LOVE your tag. From one badass to another!
Tarah KeechLife Coach for Leaders
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03/23/20 at 7:44PM UTC
You've been in a whirlwind for sure! Two questions for your reflections:
1. You said you're already on the wrong path. How do you know you're on the wrong path?
2. And the inverse, what does the right path mean? How will you know when you are on the right path? In what ways will you feel differently? How will your days be different?
If you're willing, please share your thoughts. I know imagining a better situation can feel outlandish but starting from acknowledging what's wrong and what you really want next is the first step to taking aim to create the life and career you really want.
