If you didn't see an email from me today, that means you're not on the list. DM me your address and I'll make sure you get the future editions. Here's what we covered today: This is a love note for you. For the next few weeks we're going to talk about a$$holes. Those you work with, those you work for, and those you lead. This week, let's level set on what an a$$hole is. Go ahead and giggle, it's supposed to be funny. Asshole (noun) = someone who is detestable, annoying, contemptible, or mean. The a$$holes in your life are the people who: Are constantly a pain to deal with Require more of your attention, energy, and time because of how they behave Could choose to behave differently but don't Because of this, they present a risk (directly or indirectly) to your performance, reputation, and success You know you're dealing with an a$$hole when... You feel triggered by the way they speak, think, and act You cannot understand the way they choose to behave You've tried everything short of making a full-blown scene but still can't seem to get through There is no accounting for how they have made it so far in life - It's literally mind-boggling So you've got one. What do you do with them? When it comes to working with a$$holes, there are different dynamics to consider depending on how you are matrixed to or hierarchically aligned to them - the approach to use to respond to a boss vs. someone you manage vs. a colleague are very different. Next week we will focus on those who are at your same level. To get ready, this week I want you to look around and pay attention to the a$$holes you work WITH. Homework Between now and next week, pick one a$$hole in your life who you work with - this can be a peer, a vendor, a "frienemy," a networking connection, or a family member even. What do they do that's the most detestable, annoying, contemptible, or mean? What do you think about them? Really. Even the ugly thoughts. Put them down on paper. If you're worried they might read it, don't use names. See you here next week for more about how to work WITH the a$$sholes in your life! 'Til then, cheers!