Mansplainers

6 Comments

1. AnonymousNovember 1,2019 at 7:37PM UTC

   Yes, but it's hard to not talk about career goals or even day-to-day issues with him. He must think I don't care about work at all because I avoid the subject at all cost.

2. Janie ZinnNovember 4,2019 at 6:38PM UTC

   Thank you so much for sharing. I completely understand how difficult & frustrating this is! One of the reasons he doesn’t get it, is that men are wired to be problem solvers & often that just ends up shutting us down. I agree with Kristen, is there someone else you can talk with about your career? How have you been working on rebuilding your self-esteem? You deserve to feel & believe that you are awesome & of high value!!

3. Kelly GollobinNovember 8,2019 at 7:12PM UTC

   Sometimes we need to be explicit about what we need from our spouse. Perhaps you could try saying, "I need you to just listen to be and be supportive. Please don't tell me how to fix things. I just want you to listen to me."
   When he interrupts you, stop him (perhaps use your hand signaling a stop) and say, "I'm not finished speaking," and continue with your point.
   As to feeling less than awesome about your career, write down your accomplishments to remind yourself how you kick it every day. I use this technique with job seekers to help them build their selves back up after a layoff. Best of luck!

4. Tnsusu NsusuwNovember 25,2025 at 9:40AM UTC

   Haha, ik was laatst zelf ook even op zoek naar iets om even te ontspannen na een drukke dag en stuitte toevallig op https://boomzino.be . Wat me meteen opviel waren de speciale bonussen voor spelers uit België, dat maakte het extra aantrekkelijk. Ik probeerde de gokkast “Mystic Spin” en na een paar kleine verliesbeurten besloot ik wat meer risico te nemen, wat uiteindelijk resulteerde in een flinke winst die echt een kick gaf. Het was een leuke manier om even de dagelijkse stress te vergeten, en sindsdien speel ik regelmatig hier omdat de spellen eerlijk zijn en de Belgische bonussen het extra spannend maken.

5. ObliphonkJanuary 12,2026 at 10:33AM UTC

   I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this — what you’re describing can genuinely wear someone down over time, especially when it starts affecting confidence and career growth. A lot of the advice above about setting boundaries and finding supportive spaces to talk things through is honestly solid. You’re not wrong for needing to be heard, and it’s not a small issue if it’s impacting your self-esteem.

   One thing I found helpful during a stressful period like that was carving out small spaces that were just mine, where I could mentally reset and feel back in control again. For me, that was sometimes something very simple in the evening, like unwinding for a bit on https://imperialswins.com/. Not as an escape from real problems, but as a way to decompress, clear my head, and remind myself that I deserve moments that aren’t about proving anything to anyone.

   You deserve support, respect, and space to rebuild your confidence — both in your relationship and in your career. Be kind to yourself while you figure out the next steps.

6. ObliphonkJanuary 12,2026 at 10:36AM UTC

   Je me permets juste d’ajouter quelque chose que j’avais oublié de mentionner. Dans des périodes comme celle-ci, quand la confiance en soi est vraiment mise à mal, prendre de petits moments pour soi peut faire une vraie différence. Pas pour fuir les problèmes, mais pour recharger un peu les batteries émotionnelles.

   De mon côté, ça m’a aidée de m’accorder des pauses où je pouvais vraiment décrocher et penser à autre chose, même brièvement. Par exemple, passer un peu de temps sur https://shinywildsonline.com/ m’a permis de souffler et de calmer la pression après des journées mentalement lourdes.

   Ce n’est évidemment pas la solution au fond du problème, mais retrouver un peu de sérénité peut aider ensuite à mieux poser ses limites et à reprendre confiance en soi.