Mansplainers
I'm hoping to get some advice. My husband is a terrible mansplainer, he interrupts me constantly and has crushed my self-esteem. Does anyone have any tips for stopping this behavior? I've tried talking with him but of course he doesn't see it. My lack of self-esteem is killing my career. I need to stop him because it's eating away at me.
Kelly Gollobin
Helping people be their professional best
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11/08/19 at 7:12PM UTC
Sometimes we need to be explicit about what we need from our spouse. Perhaps you could try saying, "I need you to just listen to be and be supportive. Please don't tell me how to fix things. I just want you to listen to me."
When he interrupts you, stop him (perhaps use your hand signaling a stop) and say, "I'm not finished speaking," and continue with your point.
As to feeling less than awesome about your career, write down your accomplishments to remind yourself how you kick it every day. I use this technique with job seekers to help them build their selves back up after a layoff. Best of luck!
Janie ZinnElevating women in the workplace.
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11/04/19 at 6:38PM UTC
Thank you so much for sharing. I completely understand how difficult & frustrating this is! One of the reasons he doesn’t get it, is that men are wired to be problem solvers & often that just ends up shutting us down. I agree with Kristen, is there someone else you can talk with about your career? How have you been working on rebuilding your self-esteem? You deserve to feel & believe that you are awesome & of high value!!
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Anonymous
11/01/19 at 7:37PM UTC
Yes, but it's hard to not talk about career goals or even day-to-day issues with him. He must think I don't care about work at all because I avoid the subject at all cost.
