This might be a dirty little secret, it was among my GenX friends discussing over brunch yesterday. The four of us are in hiring manager roles and all admitted when we see a resume come through with a 10-15 year gap we really don’t jump to help that woman. We all agreed that as women who had to stay working or wanted to stay working we harbor some resentment towards those who had the option to stay home with their kids. We also felt most of these women expected to come back to the workforce at the same or higher level than they left when in most cases entire industries have changed in the time they were gone. As women who balanced the struggles of motherhood with careers we didn’t seem to feel these women deserved the same credit we did. Interestingly all four of us have played significant roles in the PTA, soccer boards, community organizations. As one pointed out, it’s always the busy working moms who make time to organize the soccer fundraiser, be the uniform coordinator etc. So the argument that SAHMs were busy doing other work so us working moms didn’t have to was busted.
We realized we felt unsympathetic to these women, we don’t feel they are part of our tribe and we agreed we should attempt to change our thinking but none of us was sure how.
We went to college in the 90s, started our careers when cell phones were a luxury that came with a shoulder bag and fax machines were the newest tech.
Here we are now, in what should be the best years of our career facing an ever changing work culture that sees established Boomers still running the show with Millennials expecting to be the next leaders. Meanwhile we just want to take a vacation, make sure the kids get to soccer practice and fund our 401k.
Keep it on topic, be decent humans, no keyboard warriors.