Is this a new thing? I work remotely. Whenever I call my manager she picks up, but she never says anything.

16 Comments

1. AnonymousDecember 26,2025 at 8:50PM UTC

   It sounds like her own eccentricity. If she otherwise treats you well, let it go.

2. AnonymousDecember 27,2025 at 3:06AM UTC

   I would suggest answering her with your name since she expects that behavior. It is not worth it to wait for her response - which would get her irritated.

3. AnonymousDecember 27,2025 at 11:25AM UTC

   Based on the responses, it sounds like it IS a new thing. I don't think you're asking for advice, but more to see if this is a new norm. I find it disrespectful, but based on the responses, perhaps it is a new norm. If someone calls me, I respond. If the person on the receiving side quietly picks up and is irritated that the caller is waiting for them to acknowledge they are there, frankly it is poor etiquette.

4. AnonymousDecember 27,2025 at 2:15PM UTC

   Perhaps the connection clips the first thing she says. I've had silence on the line and I never knew the person had already said hello.

   So just go ahead and say, "hi this is Jane", as if she had said hello.

   Personally I'm more annoyed by people who say, "hi it's me", as if I'm always going to recognize them.

5. AnonymousDecember 27,2025 at 5:30PM UTC

   Your boss is a weirdo.

6. Juliana ToanDecember 28,2025 at 2:05PM UTC

   It sounds like she has a screening service on her phone. You can set them up so that they don’t say anything (Robokiller for instance).

7. Susan RoblesDecember 31,2025 at 3:31PM UTC

   I thought so too, but would imagine the boss put the poster's phone number in their contacts.

   Guess I would as the caller, say Hi, and start my question. Odd boss or not.

8. Megan LeasherDecember 29,2025 at 3:56PM UTC

   That would totally weird me out. I would ask her about it.

9. AnonymousDecember 30,2025 at 3:22PM UTC

   It is a new thing lately. She didn't always do this. I'm not sure why. The last time I just laughed and said " I don't know why you aren't responding, and I am not saying anything because I am waiting for you to respond." She didn't have an answer as to why, but it made me wonder if it is the latest etiquette. I've seen some people online about how to draft emails, for example, making it more chummy and saying "Hey guys" instead of something more formal. It just got me wondering, but it is kind of annoying.

10. AnonymousDecember 31,2025 at 1:41PM UTC

    like how they don't say goodbye either. Have a younger coworker like that. She just waits for the natural lull and then hangs up, even on video calls. When her manager asked her, the response was "why should I say bye? I'm going to be talking to them all day".

    She does say 'goodnight' at the end of the day though.

11. Catharine SDecember 29,2025 at 5:45PM UTC

    She's probably doing something else when she answers the phone and not paying attention that the connection went through.

12. AnonymousDecember 30,2025 at 3:07PM UTC

    an odd question but what generation is she from? My experience has been that younger people just don't know what phone etiquette is. They've spent most of their lives on social media and maybe texting (though I guess that's not a thing anymore either).

    My other thought is that is she is using a Bluetooth headset or speaker, there may be a delay in it connecting to the call?

13. AnonymousDecember 30,2025 at 3:21PM UTC

    I am 58 and she is about 15 years younger than me. It does feel like there is a generational difference in some things.

14. AnonymousDecember 31,2025 at 1:39PM UTC

    I have a friend couple that my husband and I get together with. They are about 20 years younger than us and sometimes I get really frustrated with all the 'phone' stuff. They don't do phone calls, messaging or voice messaging and they are CONSTANTLY on their phones. If they're not talking to other's they're playing games, even when we're spending time together or having a conversation. Sometimes it makes me feel like they really don't want to be there, but I have to remind myself that is just how their generation is. I brought it up to them once and they were so shocked that I was hurt by it.

    Suddenly feeling old, "kids today"

15. PrachiDecember 30,2025 at 8:05PM UTC

    How you got remot job can you share with me

16. SPQDecember 31,2025 at 4:02PM UTC

    Maybe she is getting so much spam calls to her cellphone nowadays this is her new M.O., even if it's an internal call through Teams or Slack.