I am considering a potential job opportunity that would not allow my SFO of 8 years to move with me.
It is potentially lucrative and closer to my family that are aging so I can spend more time with them. What advice can anyone give for a long distance relationship? Commute is 2 hours by plane.
Anonymous
09/08/21 at 11:47PM UTC
I put a definitive time frame on it and we talked at length about what we were working towards and why it was worth the sacrifice. And believe me it was a huge sacrifice
A regular visiting schedule was put in place that was flexible enough to allow for changes but was prioritized so we didn't lose that connection. But you have to communicate because it's far harder than it sounds.
On the plus side we saved a ton of money, racked up some nice frequent flyer miles and had enough personal time to be career obsessed, gym/yoga fanatics and grow as individuals.
I think I'd probably do it again if the right scenario presented itself.
But we met out goals and when we
Anonymous
09/08/21 at 8:31PM UTC
Three times I been away from my husband. The first time I went to grad school and he moved to be with me after a year. We almost broke up but had counseling and got married. Later I took a job expecting my husband to move but he decided not to. Because of this, my job lasted 18 months and then I was back home. He supported me but it was tough. We had two kids by then and I missed them. For most of that time we were in therapy every Friday (I worked 4-10s then spent weekends at home). Now I am in my last job (I hope), near retirement, and I am working in another state while my now-partially-retired husband commutes for a week or two at a time. It has its ups and downs but we remain committed. So my question to you is - are you two committed? Can you get couples therapy to help you through this? And do you have a plan for eventually being physically together again?
