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Should I change my name?

I'm at a relatively senior level in my career, and I'm getting married. I'd like to change my name...but I'm concerned about how it could affect my "brand." First of all, people inside my company and out already know me by my maiden name...But also, will it affect my career prospects and make it seem like I am too focused on marriage?

Fairygodboss member Anonymous

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    And this is exactly why I didn’t change my name, after both marriages. I have a professional and personal identity; why should I take someone else’s surname? Smacks of being my spouse’s possession.

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    I know some senior woman who changed their name and had no issue, but also quite a few who double barreled their name at least for a time. I'm personally doing the double barreling thing, though sometimes my "original name" gets dropped in written correspondence since my email is just my 2nd last name. Looking to academia, the woman I know in that field who married after being published mostly didn't change their name but some still did. It's whatever you think will work best for you!

  • Fairygodboss member

    There is an easy answer to this. Change your name and redo your business cards and signature blocks after the wedding presenting your maiden name as a middle name. You can do it forever or until you feel the time is right. PS. Treasure your marriage and your spouse! Wishing you all the best!

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