Am I interfering in my daughter's roommate's relationship with her mother?
Not work-related but I value the input from members of this group. My daughter and her roommate (Sara) are headed to grad school this month. There is an odd dynamic between Sara and her mother. Sara was forced to sign on her mother's mortgage (at 22) and she must keep her mom on the title of her car. There's a long list of things I find odd but are none of my business. Her mom doesn't want Sara to go away to grad school. Sara stood up for herself and said, 'No' (Sara has a full scholarship). Her mother made a list of 'punishments' to be applied and one is kicking Sara off her mobile plan. I have 2 unused lines on my plan, so I offered her one. This costs me nothing! I have several friends well into their 30s that still keep a family plan with their parents/siblings. WELL, I didn't know that Sara had no plan to share her new phone number with her mother and an aunt that has been bullying her about 'leaving' her sister. Now these women are p!ssed at me and say I interfered. They have MY number and want me to give them Sara's. My daughter has them blocked and says that Sara has been much less stressed not having their constant attempts at guilt trip. She is now in therapy because one of her mom's 'punishments' was to take her dog to a shelter where it was adopted before Sara found out. She couldn't do anything about it because her mom had been on the adoption paperwork too.
What is my responsibility in helping repair their relationship? Did my helping Sara mean I have to be involved in the family struggle? Even if Sara had gotten a number on her own, they wouldn't have it and she is moving 1,700 miles away in 2 weeks.