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Neeraja
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HR Manager in Sunny Sacramento!
10/28/20 at 2:57PM UTC
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Looking on the bright side?

I recently relocated to California because my husband, who lost his job due to the pandemic, got his dream job out here. I assumed that my job, which has been remote since March , would allow me to continue being remote as I was willing to be flexible with my hours. I'm the HR Manager at my company, and as a team of 1, I wear a lot of hats. I love my job and my company has some great employees that are a pleasure to work with. However, when I told my boss about my relocation, she and the Executive Team decided to instead outsource the HR function. Talk about making me feel like I didn't matter! All of a sudden I was out of a job and made to feel like the decision was mutual (which it wasn't, I was just told that this is what they were going to do), and was asked to start transitioning my role to the new HR reps. I felt like after 3 years, everything I had accomplished just didn't matter and like I was just a number at the company. They also didn't offer me any sort of severance and just said they would give me good references. Honestly it made me start to question all my accomplishments at the company and whether I had any value at all. I truly felt like I didn't matter! But then, my coworkers started reaching out with so many well wishes, messages of thanks, and messages telling me how much I would be missed. That was my reward! At least the people that I was working for recognized my value and appreciated me, even if the executives didn't. I also started to realize that I was tying too much of my personal worth to work - there was so much more to life! A friend phrased it well, "you may be replaceable at work, but you aren't replaceable at home!". And even though it's a pandemic, I now have the opportunity to look for my next great adventure and really be intentional about the company that I am going to work for. I've signed up for a course with SHRM, and have started reaching out to my network about possible roles. I guess what I'm trying to say is, while leaving a company can be hard and sometimes isn't always the best experience, it does open the door to new opportunities and avenues for growth. And it's difficult to always look on the bright side, but it is there if you look hard enough! Also...anyone hiring an HR professional? ;)

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Anonymous
03/02/21 at 12:09AM UTC (Edited)
I just quit my job with only freelance to depend on because I had to. My partner finally begged me to turn in my notice because my job was literally killing me. It's a hostile work environment, and our HR person couldn't even pay attention to me on our Zoom calls where I reported the abuse. She was literally going through her Stitch Fix box while I was crying. I'll be fine and so will you. The well wishes from the people who saw and heard you are your work karma. Life is too short. I wish we'd had someone like you in our HR role. Congratulations to you and me.
Laura
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Environmental Manager at JBLM
10/30/20 at 10:08PM UTC
It's odd how quickly they just let you go and disappointing at the same time. Sounds like you ultimately made the right choice. On the upside, you are in california so there are plenty of ways to get outside if that's your thing.
Carole Bennett
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10/30/20 at 9:22PM UTC
It's also entirely possible that they had been looking at ways to reduce overhead already, and they just used your move as an excuse.
ILHAM ALAM
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Career Advisor. Published Author in Canada
10/30/20 at 4:17PM UTC
Congratulations on your new West Coast adventure! And I love your attitude! Truly, when one door closes, another opens. You have the respect of colleagues you worked with and ultimately that’s what will matter. Hopefully, you are able to find a better role out in California, that’ll not only grow your skill set but you’ll be valued there too. I’ll say though that your story plays into a larger pattern of women having to give up their jobs during the pandemic, due to family-related matters.
misskelleyp
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10/29/20 at 6:25PM UTC
Your company may not have wanted to deal with the CA bureaucracy for ONE employee. Don't take it personally, having an employee in CA is a MAJOR pain.
Antonette
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What can I do to help you to win?
10/29/20 at 3:58PM UTC
I love your positive outlook. Way to go! I truly understand. I too had to relocate recently and reinvent myself. It was not easy but it has been a great opportunity to evolve and grow. I use to tie my self-worth to my career roles but I had time to reflect in my new context and I am spending more time to develop other areas of my life and abilties. Neeraja, as you search for jobs, search within yourself for creative ideas which can inspire you to build your own lucrative business and hire yourself! For example, can you document all you have learnt in HR in a book, a blog or any relevant platform to help upcoming HR reps. May the right job come along!
Carla Girard
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10/29/20 at 1:38PM UTC
Neeraja, You have to be true to yourself! While it's true, most companies see us as numbers, the true testimony is the impact you've made on your co-workers! It's great they appreciate you. It's evident you've made an impression on them! No doubt you'll find a new opportunity. Companies will see your heart and your caring attitude, and I'm sure you'll find something that'll be a great fit!
Kimberly Olmo
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10/29/20 at 1:37PM UTC
I think you are looking at this in a great way! Bravo! It can’t be easy. But I’m sure having those kind comments from those that reached out to you helped. I was laid off in June and I honestly loved what I did and where I worked. But as you said, some things are out of our control. I’m trying to embrace my new job as a learning experience and eager to see what else I can learn that I would not have had I stayed, even though it wasn’t my choice. Sometimes things happen for a reason. It’s how you look at it. It seems you have a great perspective. Best of luck!
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EJ Encalarde
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Helping you Live your BEST Life Today!
10/28/20 at 7:04PM UTC
What a terrific glass-half-full outlook to have! I have a staffer that recently decided to sell her home and move forward in testing the away-location she plans to land in when she finally retires from her production role at the company. (We're presently in a holding phase for live events due to COVID-19.) I applaud your courage, perseverance, faith and holding close to optimist-worthy future plans. All the best to you and your family!

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