Sexual Harassment-a hostile work environment. Seeking advice
August 30,2020 at 7:39PM UTC
I couldn't take it any longer, so I called for help. Turns out, I called the wrong agency.
You see, I called the insurance company to my employer because they had a detailed (more details than I could endure, frankly) anti-harassment training for all of the supervisors, so I thought I was making the right call. I made the call anonymously, yet they figured it out and called the Mayor, who came running straight to my office for details. She said I was safe and had done the right thing by reaching out.
Our next meeting-literally an hour later-she changed her tune and told me about how she had to handle this kind of stuff (and worse) in her "day job" (part time mayor), and that she would have a chat with the offender. She even suggested that I might be overreacting and a bit sensitive.
I was able to withstand the retaliation attacks (that included a pay range decrease when all other supervisors received increases and attacks on my honor in front of and to the City Council) and isolation for 8 months....then I had a breakdown and left my position under FMLA. My doctor told me my life was literally on the line and I would either have a stroke or heart attack. She did not approve me to return to work.
Now I wonder if I should contact the EEO and pursue this. I have waffled back and forth because I don't want to ruin anyone's life, yet my life has flipped upside down. I am without an income, profession or purpose, quite frankly.
This is not the first time that this supervisor has been accused of sexual misconduct at this particular job, and was fired for impropriety at a former City. This particular employer has had multiple complaints of sexual misconduct by high-ranking officials and supervisors.
I think fear is holding me back--but sisterhood is driving me forward. I just need to hear from others-would you pursue this matter?
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