Some background; I'm the engineering manager over a team I specially designed. I trained, mentored and hired from mostly under represented groups both internally and externally. This has been at times fraught with having to spend extra time advocating for people the company has seen as disposable at best and actively racist against at worst. One of my employees went on leave giving me 2 days notice right after another moved on to a new job. Im left extremely shorthanded and am doing the work of 5 people on bad days and 3 on good.
My problem; mid year reviews came up and the employee (who I've advocated the most for) was asked to give me a review. While these reviews were supposed to be anonomous it was pretty obvious it was this person. They used this to basically dump on me and some of their dumping was the result of another employee breaking my confidence and gossiping behind my back. I'm quite frankly livid. I'm mad at myself first and both of those employees who instead of talking to me decided to complain behind my back to my boss be after one of them quite frankly screwing me (they knew 2 months before they went on leave it was coming). One of their criticisms was "does not give enough actionable feedback and is only positive in 1 on ones. Ffs. They are mad at me because I tell them they are doing a good job when they are? And that makes me a shitty boss?
I don't know how to get over feeling hurt, angry at all three of us and completely disinclined to ever support this person again. I don't even want to do a 1:1 with this person or the other person again. It's like all the joy of trying to be a good person and boss and setting people up for success is gone for the moment. Tips on managing people who have been found out to be disengenous without becoming toxic are much appreciated.
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I've enrolled in today's resume drop event and wonder if we'll have an opportunity to talk directly with hiring managers or is this just an information session.
And will participants be on camera? I'm getting over a cold and don't have a ton of energy today. Do I need to get dressed, LOL!
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I work as a project engineer for a large company.
I have been at this company for about fifteen years. It has a strong "good old boys" network. My projects finish well and I consistently get good performance reviews. I have been passed over for several jobs where the winning candidates have been less qualified (education, experience, qualifications) and male. I have a good schedule (4 days a week) but there are minimal growth opportunities. Anyone have any ideas to improve the situation without moving? (P.S. HR is absolutely no help and not professional).
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I had a progressive career with 22+ yrs of experience in a Senior Management position at a Global company.
Just before the Covid Pandemic in Jan 2020, I was laid off and could not restart my career right away due to my personal situation during the pandemic. During that time I focused on community service as well as getting more professional certifications. Now when I apply for positions (150+ jobs applied), I hardly get any responses, if any right away rejection letters without even any interviews. I have reviewed my resume with many peers and professionals. Everyone seems to agree that I have quite an impressive resume with impactful experience. So I am beginning to wonder if my gender and age (based on # of years of experience) are causing the filtering of my resume without even getting consideration for interviews. It could even be the break in my career. Any thoughts or advice for me?
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What sexual harassment have you seen at your jobs before?
How did you handle it?
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So, fast forward a few weeks, I applied for two positions in March--three weeks before posting about having to "play" the game and how does one do that in this current arena?
I finally heard back that I was no longer being considered for one, but I was interviewed for the other last Friday---pulled out all the stops, had a wonderful interview, answered all of the questions in full with examples and left the interview feeling confident.
I received the rejection email today---I admit I am frazzled! Not sure my patience or my heart can take anymore...
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A reporter at NPR reached out to Fairygodboss because they're looking for women who have recently joined or rejoined the workforce about what drew them into the job market, what some of the challenges are, and any steps their employers might be taking (or that women wish employers would take) to build a more inclusive workplace.
Anyone have relevant experience + interest in speaking with NPR? Comment or message me and I'll connect you. Thank you!
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