Is it okay for my Boss to tell me "You will never be rich."?
May 1,2023 at 2:14AM UTC (Edited)
Last week I submitted my resignation as I received a better opportunity and salary from a different company. Since my boss was notified, she called for me and had a short talk about my resignation.
The sad part is that, throughout the conversation she's the only one who's talking without asking why I decided to resign.
Here are the things that I will never forget her telling me:
- "You wasted the opportunity that I've given you."
- "Loyalty is what employers' looking for an employee and if they'll look at your resume it will show that you do not have it."
- "No one will offer you higher salary as they will look for skills like communication that you don't have."
- "Promotion is something that should be earned and can be determined once you've contributed with the company."
- "You will never be rich if your mindset is Money, Money, Money."
- "You should never follow money. Don't be greedy."
- "You will never be promoted. However this is a challenge for you, in five years let me know if you'll get promoted or you'll JUST be promoted because the company needs someone to be promoted regardless of your experience."
In my defense, I'm the main provider in our family and the opportunity I received offers double than my current salary. This will help us more since I'm having difficulties in budgeting my current salary because after the pandemic there's a high increase on the prices of the household expenses, food and fare. In fact, there are some instance that we can't pay for the electricity, water and internet bill. I would want to explain it to her but she never listens and continued to tell me those things.
Another factor is that the workload we have is something that most of my colleagues are complaining but we're always advised that it's a Time Management issue, and someone can do the job, so we should learn how to do it, as well.
We lack manpower and the company is having the hard time hiring people (not sure why), so the work that should be done by many people, will be divided to only 3 of us in our department (we have 5 departments but only composed of 1, 2 or 3 members).
In the end, my resignation was accepted, however, my workload got tripled than my usual workload as I was informed that it is part of my clearance during my rendering. Then someone from the management told me that, "It's in exhange of your freedom."
Honestly, I keep on thinking the messages I received from her and wondering what if she's correct and that I've made the wrong decision?
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