We have two adult sons. One is 36 with family and they have always struggled financially. Whenever they can't pay rent or the lights, water, phone, cable, etc are going to be turned off I am his first call. I know they appreciate the help and they always say so but we are now in the final 7 years of employment before retiring and need to save all we can. Since we are self-employed we don't have a retirement other than social security and a small military retirement that we will be able to count on. I have told them I cannot continue to send money at this level but then I feel terrible. I take a lot of heat from my husband so I do this behind his back most of the time. Is anyone else an enabler to adult children? Its not like they are addicts and they work very hard at low paying jobs. The 6 of them are living in a 1100sf ranch home with 3 bedrooms and 1 bath but they make the best of it and know that's all they can have. There are promotion opportunities for both my son and daughter in law and all the kids are now in school so daycare expenses are gone. Anyone dealing with the same?