Confronting uncomfortable conversations in the workplace - how do you deal with this?
Commercial Real Estate Marketing in Houston, TX
September 28,2020 at 7:07PM UTC
I was recently faced with this dilemma in the workplace when a VP in my office made a personal comment about me regarding masks and covid-19 during a casual conversation around myself and other colleagues.
I remember feeling perplexed and startled about their comments, but went on with my day. After sleeping on it over the weekend, I was compelled to confront this person to let them know how their comments made me feel and that they were wrong. I sent a direct email and we had a follow-up in-person discussion. This person was deeply apologetic, and appreciative of the fact that I spoke up about it. I felt that this situation was resolved and my concerns were addressed and understood.
However, leading up to this point, I was extremely hesitant and almost pushed it under the rug to avoid conflict. I think as women we naturally have a lot of compassion and intuition to consider the feelings of others. Socially, we have been expected to “not ruffle the feathers” even if it means sacrificing ourselves.
I realized that if I chose to not speak up, that I would be agreeing to the comments that were made. Overall, I would not be standing up for myself.
Also, given the current climate, I pulled from the strength of those with no voices. Granted, this situation is in no comparison to those voices who had no chance to stand up for themselves and are now forever silenced.
At the end of it all, I wanted to prove it to myself that I can initiate these uncomfortable conversations while remaining confident in my feelings.
So I wanna know from the FGB community -
How do you deal with conflict in the workplace?
If you have, what was the resolution? And, were you satisfied?
What tips do you have when facing uncomfortable situations in the workplace?
In my particular situation, I felt that the situation was resolved. But, I know that so many others do not have the same outcome. How are you dealing with this?
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