I want to share this. It may be something that has already been posted. This really resonates with me.....
The Seven Stages of Grief for Job Loss
If you have ever lost a loved one, you may be familiar with the grieving process. A common model is the seven stages of grief, and according to psychologists, a person commonly travels through all these stages with the death of someone close.
Job loss, especially a position which had become an enormous part of your life, can be nearly as devastating. The emotional cost can greatly impact moving on to find another position, result in family and relationship problems, and make the financial stress even worse. Some jobs are just jobs; others are a mirror of your self-worth, a means to connect with a professional world, and how you maintain the lifestyle you want and have worked for.
Grief moves through these seven stages:
· Shock and denial – disbelief, deny the reality of the situation, “this can’t be happening to me”
· Pain and guilt – extreme pain at your loss, remorse for what you did/did not do
· Anger and bargaining – lash out, assess blame, ask “why me?”, bargain with higher powers
· Depression, reflection and loneliness – period of sad reflection, realize the magnitude of your loss, believe that nothing will ever be the same
· The upward turn – start to adjust, become calmer, physical symptoms lessen
· Reconstruction and working through – become more functional, start to seek solutions and deal with practical problems
· Acceptance and hope – adjust to your new reality and ready to move ahead
If you have ever lost a job, these stages probably sound familiar. Many are shocked when they find out they are being let go; often an employee has no warning at all. When the shock wears off, pain sets in. You are leaving behind coworkers, familiar tasks, an organizational structure you have learned to navigate. The questions about what you could have done differently start to arise. You become angry at the situation in which you find yourself. You don’t deserve this! From there, depression and sadness set in, followed by better feelings and the beginning of a new reality. The last stage, regaining hope, is your goal.
Getting from stage one to stage seven is undoubtedly difficult, as anyone who has been through job transition can tell you. One of the best ways to get through is to have someone to help navigate the search process and keep moving forward. An outplacement counselor is especially helpful for a long-term employee being let go – those employees have been out of the employment market and likely have no idea how to even begin looking for a new place to land. A friendly face and on-target career guidance can make the difference between a three-month job search and one that takes years, which is beneficial for both the new job candidate and the former employer.
The seven stages of grief apply to both personal loss and job loss, but neither has to be more painful than necessary with good counseling. Get help when you need it.
My own thoughts: The last statement: Get help when you need it....sometimes I think it can be very difficult to discern when you need help. What has been helpful to me is to have a couple close friends and my husband to whom I can vent to and receive feedback. I am not seeking professional help through a therapist because I don't have the money to pay for one when I am unemployed. I seek a balance and since I love to cook and bake this is what I do. It relaxes me, gives my brain a rest. Online jigsaw puzzles are a recent find that also help me.
I have found myself to go between the 7 stages of grief for job loss. It is not a linear process for me. Some days are very good and productive days. Others can be filled with self-doubt and questioning myself and my career goals. I am a work in progress though and I am getting closer to my goal of employment and I will expand myself into other avenues possibly through my baking projects. I am hopeful and I am optimistic.