I just need to vent.
Has anyone experienced a crash in mood, motivation, or just in-general blues after returning from vacation? This was mentioned on Glassdoor the other day. I work 2 jobs and I don't get paid vacation at either. So I take a hard hit when I take my once-a-year trip with my son to see his godmother in FL. After we went to see her, we stopped in Panama City Beach, and this year I felt exhausted when I returned. We stayed by the ocean for 4 awesome days. Those days were so needed. I didn't have enough energy to do nearly all of the things I wanted to. I've also been at one job for over 3 years, and another for almost 2. I have not seen a raise or received anything that might help, like a few PTO days a year. So I have one day a week to get things done between the two jobs and it's always a constant "you're not doing enough" coming from my mother, whom my son and I live with. She is retired and can't make it on just her retirement either. She doesn't come out and say that, but I hear that. At least once a week, it's a complaint about all the bills she has, and I have bills too, but I do everything I can to make it less painful. Now, I am home, and I have resentment and perhaps some guilt about returning to work and am just mentally unable to perform at 100%. Has anyone else experienced this? Yes, I know I'm lucky to have 2 jobs, no, it isn't fair that I don't get at least a week with my main job. So for 2 months, I'm slowly going to be catching up. My days are usually from 9 AM to 11 PM by the time I'm done. I also don't want to come home at 11 PM and have a big discussion about all the things I already know. By that time it's late, and I have to get ready to get up and do it again the next day. I know that there are a lot of people who are going to respond with "at least you have income" etc. because that is how I feel this board can be sometimes. It's also why I share anonymously. Regardless of my schedule, am I the only one who is depressed after returning from time away like that when they return? Any tips on how to get out of that funk?
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Anonymous
Im sorry you are having to live like this. It sounds exhausting for sure. Can you save any money at all to get out into a small place on your own? Can you look for a different part time job so that you aren't getting home so late?
Anonymous
I am stuck in one of those catch 22's. My son and I moved into my mother's home about 5 years ago knowing she was going to retire. She was so much better then. She didn't sit on the couch all day or send facebook messages (that I don't have time to read). She has an autoimmune system due to having rheumatoid arthritis and she fell about a year ago and ended up needing a rotator cuff surgery. The entire point of us moving in with her was so that my now, 19 year old son could help her with the heavy stuff, and I keep shelling out cash as well to help. Everything extra goes to her, I save a little when I can, but life keeps happening. I wouldn't be able to leave unless I can get one great job that covers what I make working 2. That is the catch. I have my resume out there, I just need to find the time to make a couple different versions of it, so it's geared toward management or administration. I have thought about that many times! Time to let go and let God.
Anonymous
I work a regular shift at my day job, I just get paid much lower than I should be. 3 years here, no raise, and a lot more responsibility. So any part-time job after that l would be available will be in the evenings. I don't want to work later than 10. Working on weekends sucks the life right out of me since my day job is super-stressful.
Lynne Springer
Sad to say- I heard and hear the same from my mom. I do what I can. She can take it or leave it. I stopped letting it weigh on me. I am not superwoman.
Anonymous
I guess most moms are like that. I feel like 49 going on 19. The most frustrating part is that it comes out so condescending. I'm glad one person out there feels me directly!