I have been searching for my next step for years. Trying to choose between different things. And I must admit I have been so incredibly frustrated with myself. Why can't I find what's right there under my nose?!
Sometimes, the times just not right, of course, but there is more to it. Then yesterday I thought about when we go to the ice-cream store. I will generally read the list of all the flavors, but eventually I always take the same thing : vanilla-pecan. It's just my absolute favorite. So I was thinking why, when I look at the menu of the things I could do next in my life can't I pick the one that is my favorite. And that's when I realized that the reason I can't choose is that what I really want isn't on the menu. There is no vanilla-pecan on the menu otherwise I would just go for it!! Off course!!
So, when you are struggling to choose and make a decision, remember the ice-cream store. Chances are your solution is not on the menu. If you can't choose it's maybe just because you haven't thought about the right option yet. And not because you are completely indecisive or stupid or a coward or lazy. NO. You are perfectly you and you are most probably considering a lot of very valid possibilities but maybe not the right one for you. And sometimes it takes time to hit home. Sometimes the solution is out of boundaries of the realm of possibilities you allow yourself. So it's just not an option (yet). Or sometimes you are on the right track, following the right idea, but you have to fine tune to transform the situation into vanilla-pecan. It's just like a sculpture where you have to take away a bit here, then a bit there to eventually find the beautiful women in the rock. It can be a tiny little thing that will make a huge difference.
But then, when you finally choose your favorite flavor life becomes heaven!! Not a heaven without any problems or challenges but one where you enjoy your delicious vanilla-pecan and the rest doesn't matter anymore because you are home. Finally home. And you deserve that.