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Passed over and mislead about it
I had an annual review that went well- a few things to improve on, overall positivity, "happy to have you", etc. My manager went on leave, so I got the compensation call from someone further up the chain, telling me I got a raise and a bonus "like no one else at my level," because I am so appreciated. They had emphasized that money and promotions would be scarce, so I was happy for the recognition in the lean times.
Fast forward to promotion announcements- and the person who is my 1-to-1 equivalent in role and seniority got promoted.
I don't understand. What did I NOT do that should have gotten me promoted? There was no implication that I was doing anything other than excelling at my current role. Leadership made it seem like promotions were not in the cards.
1) Should I ask the senior person who sat in on the review what I should do given promotions were available for my role? (remembering my direct supervisor is not an option to talk to)
2) If so, how to I ask?
Elina Beck
IT Management professional in all aspects of IT.
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09/29/20 at 5:15PM UTC
We are all taught to be nervous about talking about promotion and salary. I will tell you as a manager though that having a frank and open (unemotional) conversation is a great thing as a manager, and I wish all of my employees would do it. Be open about wanting to move up, ask what can you do to improve. Don't bring in 'the other guy' talk about you and what you need to do and have them give you guidance on what to do, learn, work on. Open, honest, frank conversation goes a long way.
Trina SchneiderI help forge new markets and build brands
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09/22/20 at 4:42PM UTC
I agree with all the above comments, you need to have a meeting with your direct manager, and the person who did the one over. You want to be clear on what milestone you missed, and what steps that you can take over the next 90 days to meet those miles stones. If there possibility for a promotion in the mean time. Is the the money or the title or both that you are seeking? Be clear on where you see yourself in 12, 18, 24 months. If it does not align with where your leaders see you, start seeking opportunities that do align with you.
meggonjinninsurance product and professional violinist
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09/22/20 at 3:46PM UTC
I would bet that you were passed over simply because your direct manager wasn't in the room to "speak for you," and the other person's direct manager was. This is not your fault at all, but a lot of times how this works.
ParillonSTEM Success
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09/22/20 at 3:39PM UTC
Sometimes its politics and conversatiosn beyong you. If you have great benefits look for positions in the same company or wait it out and get more credentialing while working then seek a more supportive place where you have more value and where metrics in the company support what you are doing so you can point to that in times of promotion. I agree see if you can get feedback of why not you, but maybe that position didnt align with you at this time- maybe the postion will be canceled in a year or required more time and stress you really want, - just position yourself for change when you want to.
Anonymous
09/17/20 at 1:21AM UTC
Sorry you had this occur. I had a similar situation. I was told there were no promotions. Then my *new* co-worker was not only brought in a level above me but was then promoted as my boss! There was no job rec at either level. He told me "I didn't ask for this". Funny that, *I* had. This was similar to what happened a decade ago: I had asked for a raise, was told it was coming and when my two co-workers got "big raises and we didn't even ask!". I fought then and again this time (and did get sympathy raises both times). For two years I took on the gaslighting and bullying and was successful in stopping the bullying, but the gaslighting continues and so I am done with this company. Done. I can't catch up on sympathy, much less thrive.
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