Last year, before covid shut down everything, I accepted a promotion to Interim Web Manager at the jewelry company I work for. I took the position with no experience in web management (which includes maintaining our website functionality as well as overseeing website customer service), struggled through running our ecommerce store for two months by myself, and came out of it shaken but whole. Before accepting this promotion, I was already with the company about a year, so finding out my boss is a major micromanager was no surprise.
However, I'm starting to feel at my wits end in this situation. My boss is older, serves as the VP of Marketing, and is one of the owners of the company, along with his wife, who also works within the company. He nitpicks a LOT, making me feel like I can't do anything right because there's usually a comment on how it should be done. I've confronted him once about this, politely and professionally, didn't get an apology for feeling like I wasn't trusted in the position/with my decisions, and was told it was a teaching moment, not anything to do with my performance. Since then, the nitpicking, emails, and long conversations have only continued. I've heard from my associate that he only acts overbearing like this with women; the previous web manager was male, with a lot more experience, but did a phenomenally worse job in the position than I have this past year. My associate and I did not overhear many comments directed to this manager; it certainly could have been happening privately, but at the time, my associate and I were receiving a lot of comments from my boss.
My question is, am I overreacting in this situation? Being more sensitive because I'm frustrated? The owners are about ready to retire and want to transform the company to employee-owned; from what I understand, this offers an enormous benefit to them, but I'm unsure if the benefits will actually be good for me. The conversion will take five years, so the owner/my boss will be hanging around at least five more years. I don't know if I can stand to work under him or even with him that much longer. Who's been in this type of situation?