Looking for advice.
On a Friday, Fall 2019 - I walked out on my job, no notice, I was about to leave the building, went back upstairs, saw my amazing supportive boss was about to go in and have a talk with him.
“Have a great weekend - remember those frames in your garage you been meaning to hang up in your office” I said. I’m like fuu$@ should I do this. This exec supported me, trained me, stood up for me against his entire exec peers. After walking back around I took... I took my laptop out my purse and left it on my desk contemplated for a moment like this was the position I was praying for a year ago, and I walked out. I knew that was it I been pushed out and complete burnout has taken over. Over the weekend I tried to talk myself on going back to work it’s not like I told anyone I quit. But come Monday I couldn’t even get out of bed.
Flash forward to 2022, I am still trying to Recoup from and even more intense level of Burnout post COVID. Savings are depleted I have to go back to the workforce. I need a paycheck - I been in the Administrative field since I was 16 - this is all I know. I get interviews and during the interview I’m like I hope they don’t pick me and honestly just want to get off the call.
How do I even interview when I’m still burnout?
Browse recent posts
I run a small operation that consists of a dozen employees who share a facility with one kitchen space.
I have a wonderful staff full of long time employees who do a great job, know their jobs well, don't need to be micromanaged, are empowered to make decisions and know when they really need to come to me. In a nutshell, I'm blessed. They make my job pretty easy.…
2 Likes • 7 Comments
I need help. I'm HR for a company owned by two brothers, one of them has significant mental health challenges.
I have received multiple complaints from employees about the owner's erratic behavior, yelling, abusive comments, and impulsive actions (latest was writing rules on the wall and door of a common area with a permanent marker). One complaint labeled it as hostile work environment,…
1 Like • 8 Comments
Seeking advice for dealing with a toxic manager and his employee who report to me. Six months ago, my executive director asked me to take on a new small team. She asked that I focus on documenting what they do and try to eliminate non value-add activities (a company initiative). I have spent the last six months trying to better understand what they do. Every question I ask is taken as an accusation. Every suggestion I make is met with resistance or sarcasm. Every meeting with this manager turns into a gripe session and loads of time wasted on talking about the past (pre-merger with another co) and how things were perfect but now so terrible. He and his employee bash the company constantly and point fingers but never take accountability. They refuse to include me in meetings and I often find out issues second hand.
I have not had to deal with such resistance in the past so this is a growth opportunity for me. My other teams are content. We work together to automate, eliminate and try tackle things that move the needle with ease and great success. (Very collaboratively).…
1 Like • 4 Comments
What advice do you wish someone gave you?
Before I start I hope I don't sound ungrateful or silly.
However, I am at cross paths with my career and life.
I am qualified for my role i.e I have all my…
1 Like • 4 Comments
When you're so important that you are late for everything!
This is my new temporary boss. She may be a nice person but she can't be on time for anything that involves her team or direct reports. She manages to above.
Yes, I don't like her. I hope she moves on and that I get a better permanent boss.…
2 Likes • 7 Comments
Hi Everyone. Looking for some advice.
I've been with a company that I really like for five years. I am a mid level employee and have had 3 managers in the past 5 years. Each has their unique way of managing and i have have adapted accordingly. My problem is with my current manager. He is very particular as to how…
7 Likes • 17 Comments
Share your insight
Join an authentic community that helps women support each other at work. Share your professional experience or ask for advice — you can even post anonymously.
Kim Callinan
I am not a mental health professional; however, given the prolonged burnout, I wonder if you might benefit from counseling or medication or both.
Anonymous
Something isn't making sense about this narrative. You had a executive that supported you, trained you and stood up for you with the entire leadership team...and you walked out without giving notice? What am I missing here?? This is job abandonment and its going to be a big issue for you to explain as you resume interviewing, more so than the burnout.
This is going to sound abrasive but I suspect your finances will drive your enthusiasm for interviewing. As they dwindle, you'll have to step up the job search.
I've said this in some other posts: suffering is a choice so make a conscious decision to stop being a victim and right this ship! You got excellent advice below about seeking therapy. I get that covid was burnout was a thing...but it was for everyone else, too. You're only going to get so much sympathy with this line of thought.
Visit with a mental health professional ASAP and get some relief. Therapy, and meds if needed, will help you put this situation into perspective and help turn this into a learning opportunity. Best of luck with your next steps.