How to break the cycle of going from one toxic environment to another.
October 12,2021 at 2:12AM UTC
Hi all, I have a resume that shows I was in one place for 2 years, another for 1.5 years, another for 2.5, etc. The reason I have resigned every time is a toxic environment. I worked at an organization where colleagues used abusive language to talk about and to one another, a place where I was bullied for accommodations I needed for my disability, and another where topics that violated my boundaries and were highly inappropriate we brought up during a performance evaluation, among other things.
I'm now in an environment where my supervisor (who is also the head of the organization) is gaslighting me when I voice their impact on me, assigns duties to me and then circumvents the process I create which causes unnecessary work for me and others, commits our team to things we don't have the resources or capacity to complete and consistently doesn't deliver at the level we promised our clients. When approached about these issues, they don't acknowledge their impact but turn it around on whoever brought it up and criticize them by leveling inaccurate accusations.
I've been doing a lot of self-reflection to try to figure out why I keep choosing highly dysfunctional organizations and I wanted to reach out to this group to see if you all have advice or experience that might help me in making a shift.
I'm also wondering if my expectations of a workplace are unrealistic. I want to do work I care about in an environment where I am respected. I feel like that's not a ridiculously high bar, but would like to know if I need a reality check. Thank you for any advice, recommendations or experiences you are comfortable sharing.
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