I have a PhD and am a board certified toxicologist. My husband and I were married in 2008 and had our 1st child in 2009 and second in 2011. He lost multiple jobs due to the recession and he decided to stay home to raise our kids. We had agreed he would go back to work, but never did. We struggled early on financially livingon the west coast on a single income while establishing my career. Meanwhile, around 2015 my work environment became toxic, but and I had looked for jobs locally for quite some time with no success. Also it was clear I was being under paid and had no room for growth. Finally, I decided it was time to bite the bullet and expanded my search nationwide. I found a new job I love (with winters). I actually love the new location. I still miss our friends but many of our friends moved away from the area due to cost. We have similar amenities in our new location but enjoy higher salary in lower cost of living helping us to make up for retirement savings we weren’t able to contribute to while on the west coast. Our kids (6th grade girl and 4th grade boy) are adjusting they are not unhappy. Moving 6 months ahead of covid didn’t help the social transition, but imho they are coping well. My stay at home husband wants to move back and I don’t. I feel like his complaints about the new location are somewhat petty (lack bragging rights of being proud to be from the west coast location, snow in new location, lack of Mexican food that he likes, having to put effort into making new friends, not being as close to his mom—now I’m closer to my aging relatives—and I feel I’m due—plus since I’m the working spouse it affords me the opportunity to spend time with them as they age). Had he really tried hard to find a job in 2014 when kids were in school full time, we may have had the cushion we needed financially for me to quit my toxic job. I feel like living location is somewhat arbitrary and he’s not putting his best effort into getting assimilated into our new location. How much say does a stay at home parent get in location? Im frustrated since I’m finally happy, but I now have a mopey spouse and I feel like I give so much and it’s just this one thing that I am asking for. I take care of our finances and living here is the best move for us financially. We would take a huge financial hit if we moved back right now. He did have some say in the location as I had two nice job offers and he chose our current location. Am I being unreasonable to expect that he should be trying harder to make this work?
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How much negotiation is reasonable?
At the beginning of the process, very rich company said their budget was 80-90k. I said that was below my desired salary but would be willing to learn more about the total compensation, etc. I was laid off a few months ago and making 115k - I was hoping to at least come close but this market is insane. It's the same job responsibilities but this new job's title is "lower" in the industry hierarchy.
Anyway - I was offered the job - yay! They offered 90k and I found out their benefits are not great. No 401k match, no bonus, couple weeks PTO.
I'm happy they offered me the top end of their budget. I need a job so I'll take it but... what can I work with here? I clearly can't come in saying I want 115k.
All insight appreciated. Thank you.
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Can you guys help me out?
I'm preparing for a presentation and I need more feedback to this one question. Please! And, Thank you in advance!
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HR is my manager.
I work for a small company and my reporting manager is HR. My manager is extremely unprofessional, dismissive and combative. Should I talk to the CEO or just start looking for a new job?
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I am turning a new leaf in life. For some backstory I've been at a job I hate for about a year now- it's my first 'big girl' job out of college- I broke up with the man I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with at the beginning of the year, and struggle with anxiety which was only exasperated by the previous mentioned. I've never been so low.
So at the beginning of February, I took a step back. From everything. From the grief of the break up, from the job search I started in March of last year, from worrying so much about my job and how terrible it makes me feel. Literally from everything. For the first time in a long time, I feel like I can breathe and refocus.
I'm jumping back into the job search next month because I know the misery from my current job will soon take over again, but as of right now, this is the most optimistic I have felt in months.
Now that I've gotten all of that venting out of the way, I'd love to hear how you all stay positive in tough times in the professional space? And how do you make sure it doesn't affect your work, interviews, etc? I consistently see others seeking advice on obtaining jobs and the current job market, but I'd like advice on maintaining a positive attitude when times get tough personally and professionally. Because I didn't fair well the first time around.
Hopefully, this all makes sense. All advice, words of encouragement, and everything in between are welcome.
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I resigned from a position back in September to assist family due to a death. I am back searching for my next employment opportunity. I have been offered a position at extremely lower rate and I am not sure it will be challenging enough for me. There is opportunity for advancement, no travel and offers a good work life balance.
The other position is pending approval from the board as it is a publicly held company. I feel the work is more in my wheelhouse and would offer my challenge to my brain. The problem is, I do not know when this position will or if it will come available. I have emailed a colleague at the company to see if she has any insight on next steps.
Both positions are in the revenue cycle arena.
What advice does anyone have to advice on whether to take the first job or what to see if the second job comes to attrition?
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I created my profile on this site and my job alerts.
However, I'm unable to "turn on" my job alerts. Any suggestions?