I have lived and worked in New York City my whole life, and when I speak occasionally my New York accent comes out. It’s never bothered me because it’s not like there’s much that I can do about it, and after all an accent is an accent.
In my current role, I’m the only one with this accent as all of my colleagues are transplants. Every once in a while when I’m 1:1 with my boss he’ll make fun of my accent by mimicking it. A few months ago when he did this, I pointed out that actually his joke was classist as the stereotypical New Yorker accent is a working class one not dissimilar to a cockney accent. He insisted that’s not what he meant and that he was doing it out of love and that he didn’t mean to offend me.
Yesterday, after a meeting outside the office we stopped to have a cup of coffee and debrief about the meeting before calling it a day, and again, he mimicked my accent. I said to him, you know, if I had a British accent, you wouldn’t make fun of it. He insisted he would if I had a British accent and again that he was doing it out of love.
I’m really kind of over it. I would never make fun of the way someone spoke, and especially not after they’d asked me twice to stop it. I feel like I could bring it up to HR since I’ve asked him at least twice not to do this, but I’m also not sure what that would do for my ability to do keep my job as HR is rarely on the side of the employee. I’m a full head and shoulders taller than my boss, and wonder if the correct response next time would be to make some rude comment about his height.
Also, for what it’s worth we participate in like 6-hours of ABAR training each summer and this is still the response I’ve received when I asked him to knock it off.
What’s my move here?
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