Feeling Torn/Uneasy About Certain Relatives Meeting Son
I'm the first to have a baby out of all the grand kids in my family, so his arrival has been exciting for everyone.
I have an aunt and uncle who I have never been very close to and there is a little family drama from years ago that didn't make me very fond of them. I reluctantly invited them to my wedding, but they didn't attend. Last year, I invited my aunt to the baby shower and she did not attend. Recently, my grandmother passed away and I saw them at the funeral. My aunt kept asking where my son was and how much she was hoping to see him there. My in-laws were watching him.
He's 9 months old and my aunt has never reached out to try to meet him previously. Not a big deal.
My dad watches my son Mondays and my aunt has come over twice now to visit with my son on those days. I feel a bit jaded that I wasn't asked if this was okay. I'm trying to be a better person, but it just makes me feel uneasy because she has gone through my dad to see him and yet I barely have a relationship with her. My dad likes to show off his grandson and it brings him joy. I don't want to upset him by saying I feel uneasy about my aunt and uncle spending time with him. Curious to know if anyone has been through something similar or what your thoughts are? Should I say something to my dad?