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Anonymous
First sharing how your former boss mistreated you right after a missed meeting is gaslighting. Don't do it if you want to keep clients. You should have let her know you gave the time to someone else -or drove far from where you were to meet and can no longer get there unless you slip another meeting, and then offer her 2 other specific times for her to choose from as a redo. Apologize to her for what you said and let her know you are still recovering from working in a bad work environment, and nothing else.
Set terms- rules of engagement (maybe make it a fee for cancellations if you charge by the hour) for meetings going forward and know that as a consultant you are often at the mercy of your clients and their ability or inability to juggle. Respect is something you have to earn when working with people and doesn't come automatically for all. Let it go.
Anonymous
Boundaries are there for two reasons. They can protect you. They can also keep people out. Depending on what was happening with this person, she may have had a legitimate reason for being late and wanting you to honor her request to reschedule. She may have also been testing you. I'm not sure how you tell the difference. All you can do is listen to the reasoning and judge from your gut. If you feel like you are being manipulated, you probably are. If the person has a reasonable explanation, and you have the time, you should go for it.
I also like your idea of putting a time limit (perhaps 20 minutes) that you will wait for a virtual or in-person appointment. If that is part of your contract, they should be expected to be invoiced for the time. You can always say that you cannot schedule the same day due to other commitments, but either way, you should be paid for your time, especially if they agreed to the meeting.
Anonymous
I am a very kind, calm, flexible person generally, and i have rescheduled last minute with this person in the past, and that has never been an issue for me. This person requested the meeting AND it is a standing meeting. So, yeah, the no-call-no-show thing felt weighty.
Her reason for no call no showing was that she made a stop that took longer than expected and left her phone in her car. I have totally done this myself. I am not mad about it. I was sure to express that to her.
Still, I would never ask the person i stood up to come back after leaving, certainly not without first apologizing, so maybe that is what felt not quite right about this, but at very minimum it was a kind of rude i am unwilling to tolerate.
We did reschedule the meeting.