Well i have this friend, let’s call her jess ( this isn’t her exact name due to privacy reasons) and jess has been showing a few toxic traits lately. First of all in the morning before my first class starts i hang with jess and we normally sit in the hallway doing homework or playing on our phones. Of course jess has other friends but lately she’s has been hanging with me for a little bit, then one of her other friend comes to say hi, and then she leaves me to go walk and talk with her. This could just be me being worried about nothing but idk. Then at lunch she barely talks to me and i’m the one that has to start the conversations. At pe class she like to race to see who can run fast we because her legs are longer and we are both fast runners. In addition, last year she i had another true friend and i tried to make me, jess, and my other friend a group. Well they started hanging out more without me. they would invite me to some but not all. the other friends name can be ann. Ann then left to another country due to finance reasons, but we still keep in touch and we are closer this way. jess doesn’t talk to ann as much anymore. Also i’m always the first to say hi and to say how’s ur day going and i hardly EVER get one in return. When i sleep over at jess’s house she doesn’t give me a blanket so i freeze all night, while she’s warm in her blanket. Jess is also working on making a business to become an entrepreneur, so that’s her often excuse to not hangout with me. when we do hangout it’s like every 4 th weekend and it’s always at her house never mine. whenever i bring something up that she’s done she always counter arguments it and brings up something wrong that i’ve done, so she’s kinda keeping score in a way. I have another friend let’s call her lara. Lara is on crutches due to a dislocation on her knee , so she gets to leave 4 minutes before clas is over to avoid all the business of the hallways to avoid getting more hurt. we each agreed that we would each have a turn to take lara to her next class and leave early. (because w had the same class that block) it started out with jess taking lara every day becuase me and our other friend who was a boy would forget. then i remover the rule we made and we agreed to it agin. since jess and lara are have the same teacher it would be easier to just have lara take her but i’m fine with leave class and meeting lara to take her where she needs to go. So all in all i feel like i’m getting cheated because both the other friend and jess have taken lara to her next class and have gotten to leave early. i’ve never gotten to do that. That’s the one that really bothers me. I also have a long history of my true and rlly good friends always leave me, whether it’s becuase i’m not popular enough, their parents get a job somewhere else, or they forget about me. i have lost 5-6 true good friends in 3 years. I’ve heard some people tell me that it’s just god testing me to see if i’m strong and can handle it. but i just want a friend that won’t ditch me and not just another test from god. one test is enough! Thank you so much for reading my story, it means a lot!! pls pls give me advice in the comments because i am totally clueless on what to do. THANKS IN ADVANCE!!
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I struggle with some challenges in self-worth based on others perceptions. While i'm working on it - it will be a lifelong challenge.
I was hoping for some insight. I started at an organization that it didn't take long to see that it was a toxic work environment. I was seen as a threat by the sales team, and for the five years I was there, I had my ideas stolen, I was challenged at every turn, thrown under the bus and bullied. But let me say - I wasn't alone. They didn't treat anyone in the organization with respect, and unfortunatley upper management failed to address it.
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