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dilema
what would you do when your work tells you you are not allowed off for your child's surgery. You can only take them and drop them off and them pick them up
Chris Tschabold Ferris
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08/16/19 at 8:45PM UTC
I was told today that as a company, they can give me that day off for his surgery but now want me to make up all of my time. It is a good thing I have all ready started looking and Interviewing. I don't see how I can work for a company that lost sight of family, compassion, and laws. They said that as a company this is what they can do under FMLA. I just smiled and walked away.
Jennie MontañoStrategic Influencer
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08/16/19 at 3:40PM UTC
Definitely sounds like an ethical issue of the company. Hope all goes well on the surgery but as soon as you can focus on finding a new job. That's just callous and ridiculous
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Sweet Caroline
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08/16/19 at 2:07AM UTC
If you qualify for FMLA (they have 50+ employees, you have been there a year etc) they cannot deny it.
Chris Tschabold Ferris
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08/16/19 at 12:59AM UTC
I had the doctor fill out fmla paperwork today. They stated that we are too short staffed right now. I do not have any PTO to use. The hospital said I cannot leave him by himself. He has hearing issues and is getting ear surgery. He cannot wear his hearing aids. I have never worked for a company where family doesnt seem to matter.
MelanieHR Leader giving my own two cents to help women.
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08/16/19 at 8:37PM UTC
Thanks Chris for the additional info. If you do not have any vacation or PTO time left, ask what is their policy of taking the day off without pay or if they have a PTO bank where other employees donate hours. I hope it works out. If you need more advice, feel free to send me a private message. Glad to help. Also, if you haven’t spoken to HR now may be the time, managers sometimes don’t know the law or company policies. Also, keep in mind that legally you didn’t have to disclose your son’s situation. All you have to do is notify the company that you need intermittent FMLA to take care of your son. His medical details and situation are none of their business. If HR is reviewing the cases, then you will need to provide the details to them. You also may want to start documenting via notes during or after meetings with them what they are telling you in the event you have to seek recourse. Good luck and hope the surgery goes well!
Kim BeasleyAdministrative Professional
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08/16/19 at 12:12PM UTC
That's very disrespectful and calous. At least now you know where they stand. I wouldn't want to work for people like that AT ALL.
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MelanieHR Leader giving my own two cents to help women.
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08/16/19 at 12:32AM UTC
We would need more information to help you but Cindy is correct in asking about if you are eligible for protection under the Family Medical Leave Act (FMLA). If you are eligible, your HR department should have a process and form for you to compete. Based on my HR experience at companies, if someone is approved to take care of a family member, they would be approved to take them to/from the hospital and be there during the surgery. It would fall under intermittent FMLA.
Sweet Caroline
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08/16/19 at 11:17AM UTC (Edited)
Without knowing why they denied the request it’s hard to give advice. Is this an adult or a minor? My mother wanted to be there for one of my surgeries, I am in my 40s!!!!
Depending on your role, your banked time, etc... there may be reasons. That said, when a i delivered my 2nd child my husband’s boss refused to give him the day off. He was much older and from a time when men did not attend births so he saw no reason for my husband to take the day off. Needless to say that was the only day he had off, he went back to work the next day.
Ginny Stahlman Crooks
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08/15/19 at 6:51PM UTC
Surgery usually requires that a family member be in the building the entire time. Can you get a note from the doctor that explains this? It's absolutely heartless for a boss to do this! But also sounds like a person that might be convinced by legal requirements.... Good luck with your work and your child's surgery!
Carrie TopolskiEmpowering women and beyond!
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08/15/19 at 6:26PM UTC
Wow. I've never heard of such a heartless thing.
Volition1028 Bringing Glamour to Life One Space at a Time
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08/15/19 at 6:30PM UTC
Agreed. That is horrible.
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