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Anonymous
01/24/20 at 2:43PM UTC
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Resignation

I recently started a new job, and hate it. From day 1, there was confusion, about my start date and I'm not sure why because the offer letter had the date on it which I signed and confirmed, and when I followed up w/ my new boss the wk before starting, I confirmed the date because I inquired about what time I should report to work. The first day, my boss didn't come in until noon and I was left w/ another employee to show me around who seemed to not even know I was starting. When my boss did come in, I could hear her yelling at someone, and then she approached the coworker who was showing me a few things and interrupted us and started demanding other things of him right in front of me. That was all before she acknowledged me. The next few days were chaotic and I was struggling to get a handle of the bookkeeping functions though I've been in finance for 8 years. The co. seemed very unorganized and there were files all over the place; just a mess. I decided to meet w/ my boss and have a candid conversation. She was distracted and doing 10 other things while we were having the conversation. I understand that she's the owner and is very busy, but her behavior was rude. She also started to talk over me, so I stopped talking. When she finally looked up and asked why I had stopped talking, I explained that I do not operate that way and that I give respect and that it makes no sense for us both to be talking at the same time. I finished week one and felt like I had been in a tornado. I started week 2 fresh, ready to try to get myself settled in and focus on the tasks at hand. I quickly noticed Monday morning that ppl seemed miserable, no one greeted one another or smiled. I proceeded to do my work. Again, a repeat of week 1. I spoke w/ my boss about setting up a weekly touchbase which she agreed to and we put it on our calendars. When it came time for the touchbase later in the week, she was nowhere to be found. Never asked to reschedule it nor apologized for missing it. In fact, I really couldn't track her down to ask her anything. On Friday I came in and saw she had sent me an e-mail w/ a list of things to do and asking me various questions. I responded that I'd like to talk about a few of the items when she got in. But I knew then that I was done. I don't like being managed via e-mail and I had seen all I needed to see. I had been down this road before, and the good thing is that I had been interviewing in the interim of starting this position, so I was waiting to hear back from 2 other companies. I know she's the owner of the co., but it's a chaotic mess and I didn't like what I was seeing. She doesn't treat ppl well, I did not receive the training/overview that I was supposed to receive, and I ended up coming out of pocket for a parking pass to park downtown where the co. is located because she never provided the parking pass as we had discussed in the interview. When she came in, she handed me months of old invoices and papers that she had on her desk and didn't answer any of my questions. I realized I had been hit w/ the old bait and switch tactic. At the end of the day, I was finally able to get 3 mins. of her time and I handed her my 2 week notice. She seemed shocked and bit upset, but said ok. I came in this Monday, ready to get to work and do what I could in the next 2 wks, but again she was yelling at ppl. I was on the phone w/ a vendor inquiring about charges on an invoice that didn't add up, and she started talking to me and asking me questions. I asked if we could talk in 5 mins. because I was on the phone w/ a vendor. I even had to put the vendor on hold. She just proceeded to demand answers about certain things that I had no idea what she was even talking about. At this point, I don't want to do another day here. I know I said I'd do 2 wks., but I can't work under these conditions. Would I be wrong if I told her today that I won't be back next week to finish my final wk.? I'm not planning on using them as a reference or even putting them on my resume, but I don't want to burn bridges.

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Anonymous
01/30/20 at 1:29PM UTC
I was in the same position, as well up until last Thursday. When Sunday rolled around, I was sick to my stomach and the anxiety crept in just thinking about having to go in there. Along with the disorganization, no communication, rude behavior and finger pointing, there was an attorney who had it in for me. I don't have another job but I'm very actively (frantically) looking. I'm single and have only one salary but I offer nothing to another employer if I don't have my well-being or self-worth. I'm using this time to build back up my confidence. They can take it from you so very quickly if you let them.
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Anonymous
01/26/20 at 3:02PM UTC
I’m currently in the same environment. My first day was the most toxic I’d ever experienced that I came home and cried. 5 month later and it just keeps getting worse. I have been proactively looking for a new gig but I’m in textiles and it’s a very small industry. I do not plan on giving 2 weeks because I’m going to need those weeks to recover from the trauma of this place before starting someplace new.
Anonymous
01/26/20 at 2:47PM UTC
I’ve been with my employer for a year now, so much has happened, Good and bad. I’ll start by saying, I applied to this position based on the Title of the position and Scope of Work they posted in the job announcement. It was for an Office Management Position, and all that would entail. At the interview, my hours of work were clear, and agreed too, 8am- 4:30pm. Fast forward to the first day on the job, no training, what so ever, just sat at a desk, barely spoken too, introduced myself to the other workers as they walked by, wondering who I was, and was merely, asked to organize a file. Then, very casually told, not asked, that I would need to work 9am to 5pm. That was the first day. As I finally start to realize after about a month or so, the job add they had put out, was clearly, a copy and paste situation, they hadn’t paid any of their bills, or vendors, in 3 months. I had to personally ask the Electrical company to please not cut the power. They weren’t mean people, they were just extremely unorganized, and had no concept of policy or procedures and were literally, “Shooting from the waist”. At first, when I brought my ideas on how to streamline the office, they were very receptive and were on board with everything. Right up until, they had to be the ones whom, not only implemented the system but in fact, actually execute it. Wow! Talk about feeling defeated.... it took me a good 6 months to adjust to an office with no clear job parameters. I just became the girl that just did everything, when needed, as needed, all willie nillie. This is was extremely stressful, because nothing ever had order, or structure, nothing was prioritization, just need it now, or needed it yesterday. Shortly thereafter, the CEO decided he would bring his sister to work in the office. The sister took another 3 months to arrive, in which I was actually happy about because the workload was overwhelming. But, I’m not a quitter. Moving on, the sister takes over A/P and A/R and I can finally get to organize myself, in a comfortable pattern...... NOT! I was no longer going to work doing office work, I was going to be the new Project Coordinator. Wait, what??? So the first 6 months were rough enough, now I was supposed to learn from someone, who barely has 5 minutes to speak to you, and 9 out 10 times he does, conveniently omits, the very detail, that would have been essential to whatever, fresh hell, awaited me, upon arrival. Without going into too much detail, this is where things began to deteriorate, for me. I was put in a position I have never had, I wasn’t educated properly or even given proper information to handle things. It didn’t take much time to start feeling inadequate, or inferior. It didn’t matter what happen, how I resolved this and that, it should have always been done another way. I got the same results, sometimes, even better results, but since I didn’t “really” know what I was doing, I should’ve done it “that” way. I made it a year, folks. But I fell apart, I absolutely could not keep allowing myself to feel the way I was feeling ( which was terrible, and that’s an understatement) My spirit and Soul were just exhausted from working for a Tyrant. Moreover, I had finally gotten over the fact that walking away from this job, was not quitting, but in fact respecting myself and showing my true value. Moral of the story, don’t stay at an job that demoralizes you to the point you start doubting yourself. No job is worth it.
bfazi216
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01/26/20 at 1:57PM UTC
Interesting how companies often do not disclose the actual state of the business during the interview process...I’ve experienced this myself. My recommendation is to tell your boss it’s best for you to leave prior to completing the 2 weeks as discussed. Do not get into any negative conversation. Maintain your dignity & hold your thoughts. Take it as lesson learned & merely a stepping stone to your next great gig.
spiritualgal
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01/26/20 at 1:22PM UTC
I did that. I told my last employer after harassment from a particular manger and his underlings I give them a month to figure it out. Like a trial. Not that they hadn't been talked to before. But this was the last time. I went to bed that night had anxiety attacks woke up the next morning. Told them I was giving them 1 weeks notice. And the small notice wasn't an anger to get back notice it was the fact that in the last 3 months I was having such bad anxiety waking up in the middle of the night not being able to get back to sleep. It was having a severe impact on my health. They understood and I left within a week. So I would just tell her that working there is causing too much anxiety and impacting health that you need to leave. Another time I quit and gave no notice at all. And I had the owners and my boss begging me to come back and they hire more people. That was when I was working 60-80 work weeks (on salary no OT pay). I didn't go back and they were still good references for me. If you don't plan on putting them on your resume and not using them as references. Then be done with it and walk away.
Flossy
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Client Solutions Consultant
01/26/20 at 1:22PM UTC
Yes. Her behavior is unacceptable. Heck, in today’s world telling her your not coming back is a step up from ghosting.
Mariellen Puckett
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01/26/20 at 12:56PM UTC
What do you care, I would have thrown those invoices in her face and tell her how f'cked up the place was, etc. You'll never use them as a reference anyway! I think I've done that twice in my career and that is years of working w/assholes.
Aspasia Kalapothakos
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01/26/20 at 2:33AM UTC
I am normally one to say stick it out since it is just one more week. It will give you a sense of satisfaction that you had the strength to endure that kind of toxic environment. If you go in Monday and don't feel that you are able to contribute and it is causing undue stress, then I would send an updated resignation letter stating that you are resigning effective immediately. At least that will make it less like job abandonment. Good luck to you!
Jillian Post
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01/25/20 at 4:57PM UTC
Your post is sending shivers down my spine because I am having a deja vu experience. My first day (of the job I’m referencing) wasn’t quite that bad but nearly as chaotic. I had moved a long way for other reasons before I started this job. I lasted a year but ultimately, I ended up resigning under duress because my boss just couldn’t allow herself to be “found out” so she asked if I wanted to leave or be fired. It was a whistle blower situation, more or less. In your situation, if it were me, I’d pack my crap up, turn in any stuff you need to turn in and walk out. Life’s too short and there is nothing to be gained.

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